My boyfriend problem...can I get him back..or is it...

[lxndrmiller]

...pointless? (I just posted this Question..but I want more people to tell me what they think....)I already have been posting about this problem, but now i am going to restate it and ask because there is new info to the problem, my boyfriend broke up with me because when we took time apart he went to find me at this bar and saw me with two friends..and broke up with me, (he hates when i go out). Told me its over and to get away from him....he was obviously hurt. I wrote him a huge email to fight for him and i called him saying that i was so sorry and to please talk to me. He text me back saying "It amazes me, too bad, its too late. Ur probably out, you should be. I'm bitter and Im done. Let it go"Is he just pissed off and trying to make me very hurt like he was? Or is this seriously over? Should i let him be for a while? OR fight more for him? will that make him more angry? please help!!! I emailed him saying that fine i will let it go..im done too...but obviously i dont mean that. what to do!PS: he never goes out and literally came to the bar and found me and said "i knew you would be here, i had to see for myself that you are not the one." (meaning because i was out and thats not what he wants in a girfriend." BUt I know he truly did care about me.......

[fred s]

i would never write anything to beg for someone back, if you have to do that, then its not real, go find a real man and let this dude go

[kathyw]

Mean it. Really be done with this guy. He saw you with two friends and that was enough to make him break up with you? You'd be happy staying with someone who hates that you go out? What does that mean, that you're in a closet until he wants to go somewhere and then you get to go out - with him? Be glad you got out from under this guy's thumb. It's seriously over. Be glad. Find someone else.

[GANGSTA]

why the fcuk would he wanna hate it wen u go out? and ure sayin that u guys took time apart right? so its ur wish if u wanted to do it durin that time or not. I suggest u let him be like that for a while and keep ur options open. If hes tryin to play mind games wit u then he ll give in and he ll come after u, if not then i gues it is over, but remember hes not the last guy out there.

[girlylove69]

I actually am going through something like this just tonight... its hard forsure.... its like you dont know what to do... somethings to think about... is does he go out and about??? has he done this before... and does he control you?? I know for me... he goes out all the time sometimes does not tell me where he iws going and or when he will be home.. but if i go anywhere then i am doing something wrong tonight I went soem where with my best friend which I invited him he didnt want to go... i left and he went off telling me i didnt care cause if i did i would be spending time with him and so on... i care so much but i wonder do i hurt more with him or with out him... this is a tough question your asking its not something that can just be answered... its something that you have to give time... but you cant let someone control where you go and what you do... but if you ever want to talk to someone message me on myspace or something i understand what you are going through....BOYS ARE JERKS!!!!

[BlackWidow]

Its is obvious that you care about this fellow. Why would he get so up set at you because you were out with friends?everyone has friends that they spend time with from time to time. your ex-boyfriend sounds more like a control freak, and his responce to your text message enforces that, his telling you " Ur probably out", is his way of making you go home and stay, you would be just sitting there waiting for him to stop by, when he is probably out, have you ask your self, how it came to be that 'he' saw you in the bar to begin with? maybe his so called anger was a cover up.... think about it! why would you want some one like that? find some one you can trust and who trust you. You will be happier, not sitting at home wondering!

[Niki]

my suggestion to you is to find him where you can talk to him face to face. so you can actually talk, tell him how you feel. tell him your friends wanted you to go out with them because they saw that you were sad about the time apart. and that you werent out doing anything bad. tell him you miss him and you really want him back, tel him that you understand how he could be mad but that you know you two can work things out. tell him you realy care about him but if he is really serious about never wanting to be with you again nows his chance because after this you are going to leave him alone, as much as that hurts you you have to go threw pain for the ones you love and if thats what he really wants then thats what you will do. if he says its over then tell him you love him kiss him on the cheek and walk away. after htat there will be nothing you can do. i wish you good luck to what ever you do! i hope it all works out for you!!!