Not sure on abortion?

[GjohanaMP]

Im 15yrs old. I just found out Im 7 weeks pregnant, my mom and my bfs mom want me to abort, but my bf and I aren't sure on what to do. Anytype of feedback might help....

[cab253]

i am against abortion you would be killing a life and my advice is put it up for adoption

[helper]

Wow sweetheart, I am sorry you must deal with this at such a young age. Honestly. I had an abortion, and have never forgiven myself, I cannot tell you what to do however, you have to do what is best for you, best of luck sweetie.

[Yamtharf]

Abortion is murder. Either give the child up for adoption to a loving home or raise it yourself.

[Evette Raven]

Its your body honey, I understand the hardship and know that they are looking out for you but you have to be comfortable with your decision. Not your man, your mom, her bf, just you.

[baby_bump_of_3]

do what feels right to u... dont abort it cuz thats what they want... cuz in the end u will be the one hurting not them... abortion is wrong if u ask me... if u really dont wanna deal with all the responsiblities then adpoted it to ppl who cant have kids... you can get an open adoption to where u can still see the child... oh and one more thing if u really dont wanna go through with the abortion but ur mom takes u to the clinic make sure when they take u into a different room u let them know that this aint ur choice its everyone elses... they are not allowed to perform an abortion on someone if they dont really want it!!! i know for experience my mom tried to do that to me when i was 17!!!!

[little_andy_rox]

at 15 ur not really ready for a kidif u give it up for adoption, the kids life may have a negative impact by not knowing his parentsif u abort u wont have the pain of labour and u can continue with your life as normal and be a parent when your readyits up to u make ur own decisions concerning ur own body!!!!!!!

[x.shannon.x]

I know exactly what you are going through.. I was there 8 months ago. I'm 17 and I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant, it was shocking to say the least.. I had been using protection but somehow this managed to happen to me.. I was so confused.. I talked about the issue with my boyfriend and we had decided on abortion. Of course my guardian and friends were all for it and I thought it was the right thing to do at the time. I had tried calling to make an appointment and hadn't had much luck.. I was stuck playing phone tag. Luckily it gave me more time to think about what I really wanted. I payed a visit to my aunt who had been pregnant quite a few times before and she went through both the abortion and the keeping her child bit. I asked her for her opinion on the matter. And she gave me the best advice I could have received, yet it was so simple.. she told me "look withing yourself and do what your heart thinks is right for you, don't do something you will regret because it will stay with you for the rest of your life" I knew right away my heart wanted that baby& my boyfriend's heart wanted the same.. I just thought it was impossible to make happen at 17& 18 but I learned that you can make things happen for you.. don't sit around and wonder how they could possibly work out in such a scenario.. plan ahead and be positive. Whatever you decide, do it because you want to..not because your parents want you to.

[Jen K]

OMG please do not kill the baby, my mom had me at 15 and well im fine and she is fine, having a baby is awesome, you should have it, its your baby just becuase your mom doenst want you to have one its not her choice, if nething to adoption just do not kill it

[johnboy]

Sorry you find yourself in this position!Consider what you would want if you were the child growing in you. Can two people who made a baby make things right by killing it? There are too many people who have no kids who would love the chance to have a baby maybe you could help them.

[TnE]

Trust your heart.You are too young to appreciate the responsibility, so you can't factor that in. But, it's a great responsibility.Speak too your mom not on approval, but on advisement.Have a heart to heart conversation with her so that she can communicate on a level with you that's other than "not my baby", but "this is whats good for you as an individual".You are pregnant now, so no matter what happens and what you decide " it is time to mature and jump ahead of your time". If you can mature up and get your moms attention as a responsible individual; you and her will get through the cloudiness and come up with the best alternative that is best for you!

[Laxstar]

At the age of 15 having a baby would be very difficult. You still have your whole life ahead of you. If your parents are willing to help you support the baby and take care of it while your at school then keeping it is not a bad choice. You have to think of the baby and the enviorment he/she would grow up in.How old is the dad?You should talk the option with him and see what he would do if you kept it.Abortion is the right of a woman. However you could always have the baby and put it up for adoption.

[Annabelle O]

My sister got preg at 15 and she had an abortion. It was definately the right thing to do, even though she is now married to the guy that got her pregnant (she is 22 now). She is a midwife and delivers babies for a living and loves babies, but she does not regret the abortion. Abortion does not make it harder to have a baby later. It may effect you emotionally but not nearly as much as raising a child would. You can talk to a counselor at Planned Parenthood for mre information and guidence.Do you realize that you could be a grandmother at 30 at this rate?

[oracle2world]

You have already made your decision, you want the baby. You are just trying to figure out how to tell your mom she is going to be a grandmother.Please understand, the decision is yours. Not your boyfriend's, mother, boyfriend's mother, school, church, or doctor.That is why abortion doctors won't do the procedure if you decide at the very last minute to stop. They understand how incredibly traumatic a decision to abort can be (even medically necessary decisions).All the talk about how much work kids are ... is true. More than you can possibly imagine. But when your child's welfare is at stake, it is amazing the strengh it can give you.So be strong, and if you decide to bring a new life into the world, God will understand.

[sikchick]

Don't listen to anyone that tells you what to do. That is your body and your baby. I am not one to tell you that you need to have this baby because you will be a bad person if you abort it. That is 100% your choice. I do warn you (which you probably know) that being pregnant and having the baby are changes that will be hard on your body, because you are not developed correctly to handle this. But abortion is just as hard on you, as well.I think that if you can't properly support it adopt or abort.If both of your moms want you to abort, chances are they're not going to help you guys much when it comes to raising it. And if that is something you guys can't do right, then I say do not keep that baby.Whatever you decide to do is up to you, but please, next time, use protection or just don't have sex.

[Baby~Love]

abortion has side effects it can make it very difficult to become pragnent again in the future, it can also make you unable to have kids, if you cvant keep the baby the give it up for adoption, i think you are a bit youngue to have kids however my mate from school, well college now, she had her first baby at the age of 14 and then the second at the age of 16, she is 16/17 now and her boyfriend that she had 2 children with is about 18/19, they are living with her parents, they are happy, both still in college doing very well and they plan to get married next year. good luck.

[challenge rocks]

dont it is your baby. your flesh and blood!!!

[Mz.Rahi]

The reason abortion is (thankfully, so far) kept safe and legal is so that girls like you don't throw away their lives.First of all, you're a minor. Your mother is still responsible for you.Second of all- you're fifteen and while you may not like the idea of abortion, you DID like the idea of sex. Now you think you can make a decision which will result in YOUR MOTHER and the boyfriend's MOTHER incurring serious financial burden, as there is *no* way you can support a baby for several years yet. Additionally it is your MOTHER (and the bf's mother)- * not* you- who will bear the emotional burden of seeing the mess their children have made of the lives they gave them. All while she is busy raising 'your' child. If you were my daughter, I'd tell you you don't need to be sure what to do, you need to get in the car, because you and I are taking a trip to the Ob/Gyn office to save the future you so casually wanted to throw away on sex you were clearly not ready for.And it's WONDERFUL that you don't like the idea of abortion, remember that, so you don't do it again.You clearly cannot handle the consequences, please remember that before you decide you decide to have sex again.Your mother is using common sense in the middle of a tragic situation.

[Greenman]

abort. abort. abort. End it now and move on. Learn from this mistake and don't make the same mistake again....make him wear a damn condom...EVERYTIME.

[Bookybell]

you should go through with the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption there are so many famlies out there who want a baby so bad but cant have one so instead of killing the innocent life give it up for adoption u can also do open adoption so u know what is happening in your babies life and you arent mature enoguh to handle a baby so yeah but its up to u to decide

[frizzy]

If you have to ask strangers, you do not want one. At lesat have the baby give it up foor adoption. Just think if you have an abortion, you can never tkae it back.

[Kevin G]

The decision is yours to make. Let me share with you the story of two of my fine sons whom I love very much and who make me very proud and thankful. We adopted two boys, each of different mothers in "crisis pregnancy" situations.We have been completely open with them from the outset about the fact that they were adopted, and show them pictures and some keepsakes from their birth mommies. We send the birth mommies letters regularly, and refer to them very lovingly to the boys. Here the two boys live as brothers, loved by their adoptive parents and new brothers and sisters they call their own. One day when they're both ready, the birth mothers and sons shall meet and talk of many things, and keep in regular touch with each other.It's an odd thing that we commonly say "give up" for adoption. These fine boys are living up to their full potential - smart, strong, playful, funny, and well loved. The birth mommies are their heroes. You may not already know that you would be able to have any amount of input you want (from lots to little, if you wish) in choosing the adoptive family (income, race, religion, region, no other children/with siblings, etc.) , and the type of adoption you'd want: (open, private, anonymous, with or without visits, with or without letters and pictures, etc.). You can actually interview the families, select one from portfolios, or leave it all to the caseworker if you'd rather. Fact is there are so many loving families out there on file waiting to adopt that it's you, the mother, who are holding all the cards in the process.Are you looking for advice on what to do from this board? Here's mine, then. Your child is alive inside you now. Let that little girl or boy live and grow up, then come to you and thank you for loving them enough to let them live a happy life - whether you choose adoption or to raise your baby.This chorus of posters here urging you to abort, well... they'll bring you no comfort if you go through with one. I have a friend who did that, and there's no comforting her every year when the projected delivery date rolls around. She grieves as she ticks up the count of another lost birthday.