My Divorced Parents Are Fighting Over me.?

[*Alex H*]

My mum and dad split up over 8 years ago. My dad has become even more forgetfull in his age and has for instance forgot to pick me up from a meeting with my mates. My mum gets angry at him. The other day i looked at my dads texts and see that shes been sending him awful texts like he puts his stepkids before me and my brother. I think she is trying to have me stay at hers more. What should i do to cool my mum off?

[Chela]

Who do you prefer to stay with? If you father has no time for you that is his loss. (if that is the real story and not a fabrication of your mother)Enjoy both your parents and what they can give. Find outside activities and friends you can lien on. You cannot chose your family, but you can you friends.Do not forget to tell them you love them. We all grow up so fast and when parents look back at all the mistakes we made, we have those regrets of things we could have done differently.We try our best but, children do not come with handbooks on how to raise and care for.Enjoy your life, school, friends and just take what you parents can give. Tell you mum to chill. Sounds like she is using you to get back at him. Do not let her do that.Good luck in life.

[yerrazebra.]

well depending on who old you are...you have the right to stay where you want when you want

[theonlytufrose]

Try talking to your parents and tell them how much they are hurting you by fighting over you. Ask them if they can come to a mutual agreement and let you stay with the parent you want to live with without fighting. Let them know you love them both and that you just want them to get along for your sake. Maybe if they understand how much they are hurting you they will stop fighting. Good luck, I hope things get better.

[flaco]

Legally, in the United States at least, you can petition the court for the right to stay with one gaurdian at the age of fourteen. The courts can also deny your dad the right to gaurdianship of you if you can convince them that he is a danger or uncaring person towards you.