Couple dealing with prostate cancer?

[NûbiâNz²¹ {]

my husband has prostate cancer for about a year now he is very affraid but will not talk about and will not let me help him. he will not let me go with him to the doctors office. i care for my husband very much and i love him very much i tell him all the time we have been married for 19 years now he tells me that he want a divorce and he says that we are seperated with out me even knowing but he still comes when he wants to so i may see him once out of a two week period he also says that he does not love me any more but i know he does he is very affraide and also confused ever since he was diagnose with his cancer he will not go for counseling at least not with me question is ...........how can i get my husband back to me.

[ladylady4470]

Wow this is a tough question.....Can you set him down and let him know that you are just as scared for him as he is..And you really would like to be a part of what is going on.? It almost sounds as if he thinks that if he left you then if he dies you wont be as hurt.......That in someway he is saving you.....Not so sure....sorry

[outbackbob8]

Oh boy. Sounds like he's having a mid life crisis as well.Prostate cancer is far far from a death sentence. In fact most men will develop it in some form in their lives and most of them will never even have any symptoms.You might also consider that this may not be the only health or other issue that he has. He may be hiding something else.All you can do is try to open any possible lines of communication. Be very careful to not put any pressure on him in the process as he sounds like he's at the breaking point already. In other words try hard to push your own needs and concerns aside. That's going to be hard I know. Maybe try writing him a letter or email?Good luck.