What would you do? My boyfriend found out that his ex...

[whit3chocolat3]

...was prego after we started dating? He and I have only been dating for 4 months, but there was always an attraction. When we finally started seeing each other he told me that he had a girl who had moved 200 mi. away about a month before. He said it wasn't really working out because of the distance and because of the way she acts(kind of psycho). We really hit it off, so he broke it off with her only to find out she was pregnant. He has been very honest with me, giving me details, and answering any questions I have. I really care about this man, and im sure he cares about me. He says that he wishes we had started seeing each other earlier then we did, then maybe it would have been me instead of her. He says shes the dark and im the light, and he's even used the terms good and evil. We have even been discussing moving in together. I think this could help our relationship. This is a biracial relationship by the way. He's black, shes black, im white(not that it makes a diff.) What do you think? SMARTASSES KEEP TO YOURSEIm 21. He's 24.He plans on DNA testing.

[Marilolli]

You should let him go... but you probably wont. His first priority should be supporting his child and not a new girlfriend.

[Greywolf]

Totally agree with the paternity test.If it's his - ex-girlfriend drama for 18 years, child support for 18 years, step-kid drama for 18 years.Love is great and everything, but you're young and have a lot of options. I strongly suggest you think hard about what 18 years of dealing with his evil ex-girlfriend and their child means for you.

[cmrpoag]

You need to figure out how much of yourself you are willing to give. I she is indeed pregnant (some women claim pregnancy to try to keep the guy), their will always be drama and she will never like you. If the kid is his then he will need to pay child support or gain custody. Are prepared to be a mother to a child that you didn't give birth to? This relationship will not be easy. It sounds like he really likes you, but you need to always be independent and keep your own money..I recommend this even to married women. Its just a smart move. So, you need to decide what is best for you, in all circumstances. If you move in together then you need to plan on this being the long haul and there will be a lot of emotional days. Good Luck. Try to not get pregnant on top of all this, I don't think it would be a good idea.

[Draugwen G]

He should take responsibility for the child, but it doesn't mean that you need to end your relationship or that he needs to take up a relationship with her.I would wait before moving in with him after just 4 months. It's okay if you want to do that, but just hold off for a year or two.Your races don't make a difference. I'm wondering what your ages are, though.

[Grace!!!]

if you think that you two have a future then i think that you should support him but then again a possible baby is a lot of responasability and i think that if you dont think that you will have a future with this guy and that you dont want him to have a kid then dont stay with him or you could just wait and see what the DNA says, the child might not even be his and you migth have nothing to worry about