My mother has a mental problem?

[~Raina~]

When I get older, will I be like her? She is just simply crazy, she is violent and thinks weird things that makes her do stuff. When I get that age is there any chance I will be the same?

[dilapidatedream]

Some mental illnesses are genetically based, so having parent or someone close in the family with a disorder increases your chance of developing the same. But not by much. There is always potential that you could develop a mental illnesses regardless of whether it runs in the family or not.Major depressive disorder and bipolar disorder tend to run in families. Schizophrenia is also genetically based. Based on your very short description, your mother might either be bipolar (I or II). There is chance, but there is no guarantee you will be like her when you are older. It actually depends on how old you are; different mental illnesses generally have a certain age range when they appear. If you are past that range, you're largely in the clear.My mother also has mental disorder (schizophrenia), and I seem to be fine. But I am not past the age range, so I certainly share the same concerns as you.

[sisterwoman]

It's hard to describe why she wastes her time on that stuff. She doesn't know anything else. She doesn't know what she's doing any better than you do. Unfortunately, now she's a mom. She'll just have to get on with it. She can't deal with that stuff and be a mom at the same time. She got something else she's gotta do and she's has to do that first.Do you know what her problem is? If you can, if you can just name it, then it's not your problem. Does she abuses a substance? That could be just like anyone. Lots of people do the same thing. You know there must be a book on the subject somewhere. There should be something on the internet you could read that describes just the way she is.She doesn't seem so unusual that she isn't like lots of people. She's just reached her limit and now she needs something to get it out of her system. She's going to go off. It really doesn't matter what it is. I'm wondering if she's mean, and if she is, just how mean is that.You don't seem very angry at her. You're not placing enough emphasis on being angry with her. I mean, hey, if you fantasized about striking her and shouting at her, that would be a problem. You shouldn't be doing that. If she upsets you that much, you know you have to get away from that. That tells you a lot. If you can stay detached, you're better off. If you can't, you know it's just meaness, you can't give her the satisfaction of upsetting you. Say, "Excuse me," and walk away. Fantasize about turning your back on it. Every time you do it, breathe deeper and feel the resolve in it."I'm not letting you upset me. I am walking away." And see yourself doing it. Watch yourself doing it. Drift away with it. Once the sting is gone, it can't come back. It can't get any worse any more. Now, everything pales in comparison. When it just doesn't matter any more, she'll change and she won't want to play any more. You're not reacting like you used to and it's just not the same any more. It won't be the same for her either.And won't that just be too bad.