Mental problems that might make my...

[LivingDeadKat]

...relationship suffer? I've been depressed for a while now, and I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of months now. We love each other, but I keep doing things to push him away, telling him he'll just get tired of me someday. But I also think about how scared I'd be to ever get married to anyone, afraid they'd get tired of me and go find someone else, or leave me, or maybe worse than that. I don't have plans on getting married anytime soon, but still, I want to try to resolve this problem. Any suggestions?

[graphicsejs]

Well recognizing that you have a possible mental disorder is the first step. Congrats! Now you need to talk to your doctor and try cousling. Having your partner go with you may help. It's a matter of learning to love yourself before you can truely love another. Getting some sort of daily exercise and eating right will also help. Try to think on the positive side. When a negative thought comes to mind think "cancel, cancel" and try to counter that with a good thought. Such as, "I hate my love handles, cancel, cancel, I have really beautiful eyes and I will make myself go for a half hour walk around the block tomorrow." If you keep think positive things will be easier to handle. I know its not always that simple but expelling the negatives is a good start. Trust me. I know what you are going through. I'm not the best looking woman and boyfriend is gorgeous... we have a very happy and healthy committed relationship. He helps me to stay postive and I feel better about our relationship.Good luck

[Blackjack]

Yes im going thru the same thing you are with your boyfriend, my girlfriend is the same way, now we live in different cities in the same state, but she wants to be with me but dont know how. Just hold on to your boyfriend, before you do something that youll regret later. If you love him, stay with him. Its the only advice i can give.

[Patty Ann Daily]

I don't think your fears are irrational to tell you the truth. One only need to look at the statistics to see that they are quite real. The point is not to let that rule your life, and the only way to do that is to know that YOU can handle these situations should they occur. Also to realize that there is nothing wrong with you, if they do leave, and that there is not shame in being single. I love being single and hanging out with my single friends...I find it refreshing to be with others who are focusing on themselves instead of another person to find happiness. I think your fear is a fear of being alone, and that in my opinion is irrational. If you love yourself, you will be happy no matter what life deals you. Good luck to you.