REALLY HEART BROKEN :( my ex gf broke up with me

[gr3gro6]

and i feel like i lost my appitite for life. what do i do? Okay this is how my love story went. I am a 19 year old, and my ex gf is 18. We dated for 6 solid months and we completely fell in love since day one. I really really loved this girl and we would always be together everyday. If iwere not with her then we would be on the phone. We really cared for each other. She loved me and I loved her. My mistake was that I hung out with my other ex girlfriend at the mall because I saw her there and she tagged along for about 1 hr. I know it is wrong but I didn’t have any feelings for this girl. My girlfriend asked me to not hang out with her and I was staying firm with that except for that one time. This is the “reason” why my girlfriend broke up with her because that is cheating and I hurt her very bad or so she claims. But anyways, before she found out about this, we were going to a New Years party that I did not want to attend but because I love my (ex) girlfriend I went. Little as I noticed my gf completely ditched me that night at the party so she could party and meet new people I guess. I noticed that my gf could ot stay away from this other tall dark handsome guy. She was constantly talking to him and dancing with him all night and she ignored me the whole night for this guy. I had to peel her off this guy to at least dance one song but she refused. I was extremely upset and after 5 hours of seeing this I just left the party and went home. The next day she called and she knew that I was upset and she apologized and said she is going to hang out with 2 close girl friends. That was a lie because she went to see this guy and lied to me about it. For the next few days she was seeing this guy while she was with me. After she found out what I “did” with my ex she broke up with me and put all the blame on me. She claimed I screwed her over and etc. she is now seeing this guy every single say since new years and it hurts me a lot. She claims how much of a cool guy this guy is.. he is tall dark handsome buff, tattoos, nice car, nice friends, good connections at the casino and bars. And I am just alone. She knows how much I love her and she says she cares for me but wants to stay friends. She’s seen me crash and burn for her because I love her so much but I feel like she is walking allover me. Its like she wants to see me suffer but I don’t understand because I know she cares for me still and possibly still loves me. We’ve hung out few times after to get a coffee and whatnot but she still sees this guy every single day and I know she likes this guy a lot because she even admits it. And its sad knowing that I love this girl sooo much and she is even at this moment at this guys house “watching a movie” . she knows I love her more then anything and she still chooses this guy. After usually ignoring me the whole day at the end of the night she will text me to see what’s up. It hurts me so much knowing what she is doing with this guy and how much she knows that I love her. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know why she can do this to someone that cares for her so much and what I could do to have her back. She can be jealous and maybe that could win her back if I make her jealous… I really don’t know . but I hate making her jealous because I don’t want to hurt her, even though she crushes my heart every single day. I just want her to realize who cares for her most and want her back in my dreams because I cant stand living like this. PLEASEE give me feed back 

[juta-de]

Keep it cool Man....ill lay it out to you like this "PEOPLE FU.CK UP" ok... sh.it happends mane, best thing to do is take some time and chill on it.... more fish in the sea bro.

[sugar_coated]

i think u really feel so depress after typing all these...well time heals all wounds, so hard to do it at first but later on you'll going to meet someone new, how about that? just be patient okay? try eating, but not over eating lol, some people who are depress eat a lot!!! well, good luck

[lightmn]

If you love someone, an ex should never be in the picture..it is not wrong to share things about your ex..but keeping an ex in your life when you say you "Love her"??....You are making the problem worse..one thing to think about is does the guy she is hanging out with have his ex's tag along? my guess is no...IF you really love her you will get the ex out of the picture...and then your relationship will thrive.

[alexandra l]

wow i take it you really liked her..well i know its gonna be hard to get over her but you have to or you will keep feeling horrible and stay sad.you just need to move on.well good luck

[dals7]

You are only 19... In 10 years you're going to look back on this and count your blessings. Just move on.

[Ly, T.]

NEVER ever intentionally make some one jealous. You should calm down, give yourself some space and some time away from her. Try to hang out with your friends and family. Get busy with other things in life.

[Alexis D]

i would not try to make her jealous she is a jerk for what she did to u, try to move on u seem like a nice kid and trust me your soul-mate is out there waiting to be found Cheer up and Good luck :)

[LovingLife]

maybe you had way too much love, this was a short relationship, 6 months, that's just testing grounds, you have some blame in it, but she used it for an excuse,sure you know that thiss guy is new to her now, so let it be.You put in way more than she did, plus you two are young, look around, teat the waters. You really can't blame her, it was only six months, maybe you are not everything she was looking for, nothing wrong, or bad about you, you just didn't fill the cup, so to say. You got to move on, you'll find someone to fill your cup, even if you feel she did, maybe your cup was small at the time. Life is full of lessons, thi sis just one learned...Don't fall to fast, for anyone.

[nikz']

Oh my gosh!! so that's really true love that struck your heart.. you know what, I guess that you have to talk to her seriously and ask her to give you a chance..

[benj]

Well, the next best thing to do is refocus. You need to open up to the options of winning her back or finding a new one. Remember, when you are independent, kind, caring and loving person, there would be no problem at all. So keep yourself busy by doing other stuffs. Don't be disheartened if she doesn't comes back. Some girls are dorks and some are the best ever. So have a serious talk with your girl and resolve something. If she avoids to answer relationship related question, just be calm. Give her at least 2 weeks and the most a month to respond. Remember within this period don't entertain some other girl and continue to pamper and show love and care to the girl... You will be fine buddy and try it out and be ready to accept the outcome. Chill

[curlycue]

dawg my dawg...remember down the river not across the bridge. No but seriously you do not want this girl. Sure the you right now does, but the future you is like "Whoa mutha f0cka you are going to meet other chicks, enjoy awsome kisses, laugh at hilarious jokes, and taste some sweet p00sy" He is screaming at you but sadly you cannot hear him because you are to caught up convincing yourself that your ex and this d1ckhead aren't 69 n each other right now. Dude, they prolly are. But listen you need to see the beauty of this situation the beauty of your life you future. She messed up not you. So you aren't an a5shole like most guys (at least not yet) and you got to see the future of you and her long before it happend. She is clearly a cheat. If not now it would have been after you wasted more money, emotion, TIME, and possibly gotten to enjoy an STD or two that she picked up from some other dude on the side. Listen bra don't talk to this b1tch you are better than this. If you really want to talk to her, if she is all that you can think about...then change your mother f0ckin number and never talk to her again. ERASE her dude she is done. The flower has wilted. Do you seriously want to get back in there? She has been with this douche blowin him gettin screwed by him and God only knows where that d1ck has been. If you think that you would take her back, especially if she came crawling back than smack yourself on the face. Rent a good porno and beat it out of yourself. Start over my brother. There are thousands of other women everywhere. You will meet other women. Don't look back. You will find an awsome chick who you will treat better because your heart has been tenderized by a she devil. Good luck bra and God bless.

[Elektra]

first of all let me start by saying im sorry. what she did being with the other guy n completely ignoring you is just plain wrong, it seems that shes using what you did as an excuse to break up with you(she wants to make it your folt so she has no regrets & its easier for her.) , dont believe her that you screwed her over, because she was just looking for an excuse to be with this other guy. My best advice to you is to move on and find someone who would appreciate the love you give them, and who will return it. Go on with your life, feeling guilt free( sure what you did was wrong, but not as xtreme as what she did).knowing that its not your folt would make it easier to move on. take care & take it easy.

[dasilva]

alright bro...i know u have many answers, some which i agree with...but i am currently in the same situation as you and even my past relationships have been disheartening...look at my profile cause i have my own questions of my current relationship so u can see for urself...plain n simple, we love our girls...but i always say that if we are the ones trying to make the relationship work more than our partners, then they ain't the right one for us..at this moment, more than likely she is getting nailed by that guy, and by the looks of it she likes him physically...at this moment, in the past u did share something more than that, and she still contacts u because in a way she still using u...i know that u need someone who is going to offer u the same love as u are...like u said. U only were talking to ur ex and ur positive that u don't like her..she doing u worst..move on bro..we young, we better.