i feel like my relationship is coming to a end....?

[♫♫♫]

and it's driving me crazy..i have cheated so many times in my past,that i constantly accuse my g/f without having proof....i think i'm pushing her away w/ my insecurities...b/c of how cold i use to be when it comes down to cheating...help!!!! my past is taunting me.

[DonJ]

You need to talk to someone about this. A professional can help you cope and look for ways to heal you. This will be a problem for you regardless of what the outcome of your present relationship will be. You need to focus on yourself and try to fix this problem. Please seek help.

[purpledaisy0625]

I guess that's what they mean by your past comes back to haunt you and what goes around, comes around. Just b/c you have cheated many times, doesn't mean that she has (although it sounds like it would be justified). You probably are pushing her away. Nobody likes to be accused of things they haven't done. You need to make a fresh start, quit your cheating ways, accept what you have done in the past and decide that TODAY is the first day of the new you.

[PhD Diva]

You should not be in relationships if you can't be faithful and if you can't control your insecurities... these problems will not get better unless you fix your issues...and that means you should work on being single for a while until you are emotionally mature and healthy enough to have a relationship that you can be faithful to and where you can trust freely! Good Luck.

[kentuckybound]

the best way my husband i and have found to deal with this same sense of insecurity between us is pure honesty. when either of us gets the fear that the other is cheating or even thinking about it, we state that. sometimes it upsets the other person because they aren't doing anything at all....but everytime it helps to bring those worries to the table. let her know how your own past haunts you and how it's very easy for the fears to enter your mind in this relationship. let her know how much you want this relationship to be different, how much you are consciously trying to change that in yourself. eventually, with a lot of talking and communication, with a lot of trust that will hopefully grow between you, it starts to change.

[REALITY OOO K]

The cheating has nothing to do with it. Your relationship was over a long time ago!!!

[Tesse Malou]

say exacatly the same thing to your girlfriend, she's the best person to help you.

[panamarandy]

everyone here seems to have beat me to all the good answers, so i have to agree with them...