could you tell if my relationship with my boyfriend

[rosie h]

will last? we were together once before but he drank.? my boyfriend drank all the time when i first met him and we broke up and i moved on or so i thought. i thought about him daily.i couldn't deal with the drinking so we called it quits. he got sick and thought he was going to die. so he called and i told him to leave me alone.but i loved him and wanted to be with him. so i thought about it and decided to give it a try on my terms.my terms were he had to stop drinking. i told him i lost my oldest son because of alcohol and drinking and driving and i was going to be with anyone who done such a thing. he has since stopped drinking it's been almost two months since he's had anything to drink. i tell him that am proud of him. i love him with all my heart and i want to spend the rest of my life with him.

[Troy M]

You are definitely going to last!!! He gave up a MAJOR addiction for you. He seems to care a great deal about you, and it is obvious you care just as much about him. He is a keeper. Good luck!

[landamiaw]

you cant change him! he has to have his own desire to stop drinking. ppl who addicted to alcohol tend to abuse others... just dont let him abuse u

[passionatefever]

sure if he remains sober.good luck

[richc666]

It's impossible to say whether a relationship will last or not, regardless of how people feel about each other at the present time. It sounds like he's done the decent thing though and is doing his best for you. don't think about it ending, just enjoy the time you have together. If you are having bad thoughts about it all, they will surface and possibly end the relationship. He's shown he's willing to change, you should be happy with that. Enjoy the ride and see where it takes you. If you're meant to be, you will be...

[mrliteman001]

I think good for you. Letting him know of his problem. Caring enough to make sure he is of sane mind and health. Now alcohol is a powerful drug. It just takes one time to fall of the cart and back to the races.....Good luck...Ken

[BabymaH]

juz wana say gud luck and dont give up. i have been with my boyfriend since highschool till now in college. its all about understanding, making compromises, keeping promises and loving each other. he did hurt me by cheating on me but wen he came back to me i cudnt help but giv him another chance coz i love him so much, on the condition that he'll never cheat on me agen. so i sorta know how u feel. if u guys are rily meant to last then it will last. its okie to drink but not up to the point that its addictive or juz too much ryt? cant rily stop a person from doin something he was once addicted to...it takes time to stop or moderate it...make compromises and kip the love alive. ^_^

[daisybloom47]

i can understand your feelings towards drinking....i hope that you guys can work through this but you need to know that it is a daily journey for his sobriety....its really very important for him to stay grounded and maybe go to Celebrate Recovery or AA and maybe do the 12 step program....alcoholism is beatable but its something you have to choose each day and its important to learn your triggers and to avoid them at all cost...if you love him with all your heart then hang in there...love is not a feeling but a choice because feelings change day to day just with normal life's up's and down's....its good he has your support and you also should get involved in his recovery....its great you let him know how supportive you are of his sobriety...there is ton of online info and support for recovery but you really need to find a place in person to continue a fullfilled walk of sobriety so that he can be real with his temptations (because they come when you least expect them-thats why you have to learn what your triggers are)...the support is for both of you...i wish you guys well and i was sorry to read about the lost of your son....

[littledoll]

I think he has taken a big step for you and i would say that is a plus on your relationship. I f you want to know if he left drinking for good, it depends on if he was an addict or hjust a actual drinker. Because if he was an addict the probability of he going back to drinking is high. I would recommend he signs up with the AAA or go to a rehab to get it off his system for good. That way, you can feel safe and be sure his intensions are real.

[KiwiChick]

Good luck to him, all the best :)