she told me she doesn t want a relationship right now

[ami_ft_peace]

but she went out with a guy today!? this beautifull girl and l flirted in class and she touched me alot(shoulders, feet etc...) she gave me all the signs of interest!! one day i told her that l like her, she said she likes me too but she doesn't want a relationship right now (because it causes trouble in her opinion). so i kept it cool! today we were in class and she didn't come, and my friend met her outside and she told him she was waiting for someone to go out with. so he told me, then i asked her friend if that's true, and she told me that he was calling her for a week now! what should i do now? give up ? how should i treat her from now on? i see her everyday in class!!she didn't know him before she knew me! and you know we live in a poor country so when it comes to girls, it's all about who can protect them from the futur, this guy she went out with is from a rich country and has a car , so what i think this is all about is that she wants to save herself cos all girls here believe that at the end none will marry them when they get over the 21. so what do you think ? is money stronger than love ? or the opposite ? and i m a guy !! :)

[gr82cu]

It doesn't mean she is in a relationship with him because she went out with a guy....

[Alex M]

wow! you caught her in a lie! now you can convince her that you are worth dating thanks to your awesome detective skills!or you can accept that she was trying to spare your feelings by making up some BS about not wanting to date.totally up to you./logic and attraction don't mix, by the way.

[Prophet 1102]

She didn't want a relationship with "you".Move on.

[lil_farmgirl]

Looks like shes not interested in you , move on and find someone else to show your affections too , you never know you might make her jealous ;o)

[solid132]

call her a dirty stinkin whore next time you see her, and make sure everyone in school knows it. Oh I have a question, are you a female? you sound like one.

[PETEPUMA]

treat her like a friend, I'm sure she didn't say that to you to blow you off.....she does like you otherwise she wouldn't have said that, the other guy thats been talking to her, she's might of known for a lil' longer than you, so she wants to see how things are with him, but she want to be a freind and obviously flirt w/ you...and in all honesty she can go out and see people, without it being a relationship.

[Zero1]

Well, if she says she is going out with this guy that doesn't mean that they are exclusively together, you know. However, from my experience girls tend to know whether or not they would consider you as either a "friend" or "boyfriend" material. Besides, seems to me you were attempting to start a relationship and she is in a state where she just wants to play the field. I say, go out, meet other girls. If she gets jealous or shows any kind of emotion than she feels more strongly than she lets on. Then, you might have a shot at making her your girl.But in the meantime, she sounds like she is just trying to have her fun. Doesn't mean you should get all butt hurt about it.

[Love Guru]

This is a classic example of womanese. In her mind (which is VERY different from the male mind), she thinks she was being nice to you. The bottom line is that when she said she does not want a relationship right now, she left out two very important words at the end of that statement, "with you."When a woman likes you, she never gives the "I don't want a relationship..." nonsense. I do not want to burst your bubble or sound harsh, but the reality is sometimes harsh. You may as well move on and forget about her. Just because she said she likes you too, means nothing. Again, she was only trying to be nice. Her actions are all that matter, and her action was to not go out or have a relationship with you. The reason is because she is not interested in you, and there is nothing you can do to change that.For your sake, I would also advise you not to be asking your friends and her friends stuff about what she told you. It only makes you look desperate to her and other girls that know what you are asking. If there is anything that will turn a woman off, it is a man that appears to be desperate. They want guys to be a challenge for them. They need to feel that they must work to catch him. You should make sure that you always project an image of a guy that is in demand (even if you are not really). Hope this helps!

[Alpha-Male]

You are prob her second or third pick so if her first pick dont work out she can come crawling back to you. Ive had girls say that to me, and they would go out with someone else, then when they get dumped they would crawl back wanting to go out. I wouldnt bother, let her come back to you, your probably just inflating her ego so she will have more confidence with other guy.

[cho_17872]

Since when does going out with someone make it a relationship? Maybe she just wanted something casual and she thought you wanted more. Who knows? If you want the truth ask her not us.