Should I hide a relationship from my

[Shawn C]

girlfriend's parents? Alright, this is really complicated, so i'll try my best to keep it short.I met this very nice girl who was younger than I am in choir. We began dating 3 months ago. We have kissed, held hands, made out...we've done practically everything, but have not yet had sexual contact. It's a great relationship, and I really love her. The problem is that her parents won't allow her to date. She's 14, and I'm 17. She will be 15 in a few weeks. I'm afraid of a lot of things. I'm afraid of being accused of statutory rape (even though I haven't touched her), i'm terrified of telling her parents (whom I suspect know about the relationship) and I'm very afraid that my girlfriend's parents won't like me or will get my girlfriend into serious trouble. I've met her parents, and I think they're nice people, but my girlfriend thinks otherwise. Due to them seeing me on an "off" day, they think I'm a bad influence (I highly disagree). I just feel like it's tearing me up inside.Should I tell them?I just wanted to include the fact that I live in Canada, for legal purposes. I know most of you are from either the US or UK, and the laws are different there. I'm not 100% sure about statutory rape laws in Canada, but I'm pretty sure there's a three year restriction. One I turn 18, the laws change. Still not sure about that.You can't be charged with statutory rape if you haven't had sexual contact with someone. So just because we're dating doesn't mean I can get booked. More info for answers :P Feel free to ask me any questions about my relationship.

[J.B.]

You should always tell the truth but in a situation like this wait don't tell her parent until three months after her birthday don't engage in sexual contact

[The Answerer]

Probably not. Chances are, the relationship is gonna keep going outside the house and there is no need for her parents to know as long as you don't have sexual contact. More chances are, you probably won't date her forever. Once you leave high school and move away to college, long dist- relationships die out quickly, or something else might happen. So there is no need to be troubling her parents when nothing is set in stone.

[usendireply]

Lets see i get ur story... try doing something u nnormally would do .... help her parents... show that ur someone who have responsability. Act Smart.......with manners.....Hope it helps... do wat comes in mind...

[cassiebaaby]

well, my boyfriend is older than me and im sure he wouldnt like it if people were to accuse him of rape expecially if they dont know him and everything and i hate it when people say that ... age aint nothing but a number but anyways, i think you should talk to your girl about it and see what she thinks but in the meantime try not to worry about it hopefully things will work out

[not my name]

i think you should tell her parents. if you guys are sneaking around, then that seems a lot more suspicious.since there's only two years difference between you two, you can be charged with rape! especially cos you're not 18! and even when you turn 18 you cant be charged cos you were with her before you became legal.i think its always better to tell the truth especially if you think they know already. you dont want them mad at you for lying to them!

[sandiegrams]

you cannot expect to have a serious lifelong relationship by hiding it from her parents you must live wihth them peaceably as well as with her. You cannot make her choose between them or you it will never work. If you love her, but honestly I don't think you know what love is, only lust, you will patiently work to gain her parents trust, by doing so you will also win hers.