Can someone give me their perspective on my

[Iyana]

relationship? Of course I can come nowhere near describing my relationship in 1000 words but my BF and I have dated for a year and half and he just seems cynical about everything I do. He pretty much never tells me anything positive and he brings up issues out of nowhere and tells me he has been unhappy about something for a long time and I ask him why he didn't tell me sooner and he said it would have made me mad, this is ridiculous because I am very patient with him and I always want to know if something is bothering him. It seems like I work on our relationship and am always trying to make it better but he says relationships shouldn't be work, he thinks they just "work" or they don't. When I tell him that I try hard to make him happy he says something is wrong if Im trying hard. It seems like everything I say and do is wrong in his eyes and I HAVE talked to him about this. We have fun together and love each other but he just can't understand what he's doing to me! Can anyone relate/advise?

[spontanious]

the way i c it is that he loves u but is afraid to commit... in ur situation just give him time... he will come around... in relationships like this it takes time... not weeks, but months... and if u r willing to do your part...

[cubsrock1617]

Almost sounds like you put way more effort into the relationship than he does. Which is right up my alley, I'm kind of in the same boat! But you should talk to him and try and tell him how you feel and how much it bugs you that he's like that. But if he doesn't give as much as you give in the relationship, then it's just not going to work down the road. Best of luck!

[Wesley]

He sounds like a jerk. Try blowing him off for a while, cold shoulder, and make him do work on the relationship. If he can't, it's not worth it. He should love you as YOU, not as who HE wants you to be, with exceptions that may be in your best interest, such as smoking, excercise, eating habits, and such. Those are things you'd want someone to work on if you cared about them.Relationships do take work, they always do, but there is a limit. If both aren't working on it, then it won't work out.

[Kix]

Wow this is too familar for me. He is a downer. It is not your job to make him happy, only he can control how he feels. My ex was like this and he was also a compulsive liar and a drunk.Relationships are hard work and if you really want it you will word at it. If he is always bringing you down though, is it worth it?

[yeahright]

i agree with him totally - relationships shouldn't be work and yes, smth is wrong if u re trying HARD to make him happy. is he a philosopher? he should write a book. he is so smart

[Dino]

Tell him to stop smoking weed! He's lost touch with the reason he picked you! Do you imagine a life with this person, like 10 years down the road? Or is this the life you have grown accustomed to? Just go