Being in a relationship at work that will...

[Adia J]

...affect another coworker who is my close friend? Mark, a coworker who is married and one of my closest friends started joking with our coworker, Phil, that he should ask me out. I'm not looking for any kind of committment, just casual dating, since I divorced a year ago from my first ever boyfriend.Even though Mark was kidding around with Phil telling him to go on a date with me, in reality, Mark said he thinks highly of me and thinks that Phil isn't good enough because he has no direction and is not a serious person. I told Mark before that I had no interest in Phil. Probably that's why Mark was kidding around with him.BUT, Phil started asking me to go hang out with him and i do feel now that he likes me and i like him too.Mark said if I were to go out with any other guy on the planet he'd be extremely happy for me BUT because it's Phil, Mark said that he would have a hard time accepting it. My close friendship with Mark is so important but if I go out with Phil, things will change because he doesn't approve. What to do?

[ALZ]

You have a jealous friend on your hands. Allow yourself to choose your own boyfriends and tell Mark so. Friendship does not mean that he gets to tell you whom to like or not. If this impacts your friendship with Mark, ask yourself whether he is a friend or your owner.

[dale5of7]

Don't do it. DON'T do it. One thing you'll learn is that boy/girl friends come and go, but it's your buddies that help you through them. Ya don't wanna jeapordise a definate friend for a MAYBE boyfriend. The 2nd biggie is the co-worker part. Mixing friends and work is o.k., but mixing ROMANCE and work is a very very bad idea. Most conventional wisdom is that ya should go for that ype of thng ONLY if you don't mind losing your job.