Adolecence confusion, teen troubles. Perception,...

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...self concious, mental problems. Please Help me........ URGENT Y'elo,I'm 16 year old male,and need some help please. The problem is I'm really insecure and self conscious. I always think that people are perceiving me as a weak person who acts like a girl. People reassure me that i don't but i sometimes feel like that. I have very few friends to talk to, therefore i would like anyone who has been or is in my position to help, and tell me about their experiences. I am very depressed and low because of this. I know i might sound stupid but thats the biggest problem i am having. Hence, i feel no one wants to be my friend. Can someone help me and tell me what i am supposed to do. Have you ever been insecure. Please, any males who can answer. Is it due to adolescence, self identity or something? Please help...Why do I think like this?Will it ever end?I feel very depressed to talk to other people just in case they think i act like a girl or something, as in the past I was like that, but i have change. Please tell me what is wrong and what I can do.

[Annalysia F]

all you have to do is dont listen to anyone . listen to your heart and know that who you are is nothing you can change . god made every one a great person in side of you .you are great how you are remember its not about the outside its about the inside

[Al B]

you are feeling the questions about yourself that many your age do - I did, and turned to reading as a means of dealing with that at your age. As you grow older a lot of your feelings will change but I will give you a web site that may help you as well. Good luck to you and don't worry, it does get better!!

www.lifechoicesweb.com (http://www.lifechoicesweb.com/raising_self_esteem.htm)

[The Nag]

I don't know how much this will help, but when I was your age (I think everyone has some insecurities at that age...it really is a very tough time) I thought everyone didn't like me because I was too fat, and I didn't feel any self worth. I was depressed as well, and I even tried to commit suicide due to depression. I think that you should get some help, because it really does get better even though I am sure that you cannot see how it will (I didn't either...but I am so greateful to be here now) The important thing to remember is that people aren't judging you as harshly as you think that you are. You are much harder on yourself than other people are. That being said, if some butthead is giving you a hard time...try to bear in mind that there is always going to be some looser that behaves like a knuckle dragging neanderthal. It is something that everyone has had to deal with, myself included, and I, thankfully, am here to tell about it. You can get through this. Just get some help (like a councilor or your parents if you can talk to them...personally I would hope that my children would come to me with any problem.) and carry on. Teenage years don't last forever, and eventually you will figure out how you fit into this crazy world. Good luck, God bless.

[jo b]

Well your depressed because you think people think you act like a girl? I am 28 and was pretty shy in highschool myself. People always tell you to express you emotions because its healthy but by saying that what they mean is tell only your very close and personal friends and family your problems. I know you said that you dont have many friends but if someone you didnt really know starts tellnig you all about their problems you would get kinda bored of that person (at least most people would). Some people are very social and have several "friends" forget about them. Having a couple good friends you consider family are all you need. and if you dont have a couple friends like that then you need to find more ways of meeting people, clubs, teams etc. Everyone goes through a time in their life when they feel as though theyre alone and its theyre fault. For me it was part of my high school career(thats why i'm writign this) Your problems will pass theres no question about that. It may seems impossible right now but i can bet you any amount of money that this is true. If you feel like you have to spill your guts all the time maybe you should go to a therapist. Not that theres anything wrong but its there job to listen. Ok fingers are sore.Good luck

[geoffrey b]

hi,yes you are young, and feelings you have today, will be completely different in the future. always remember that you are the most important person in your life. go out and find something that keeps your mind occupied, and makes you feel good about what your doing. this can be anything. i'm from hawaii and love to surf, but now i'm in san antonio. land locked, and i could just give up and dye of boredom, but i go out and try to be active. i longboard skateboard and hike and look for interesting things to think about. this always puts me in a great place. now i know you are not me, but you could give these ideas a shot.