alcoholism?

[sinead g]

my brother is 25 years old.he is an alcoholic who thinks he doesn't need help.i have looked after people who were alcoholics for 8 years so i know what i am looking at.However when it happens to one of your own, you don't really know what to do.He has been drinking heavily for 8 years now and his liver is practically destroyed. i was with him when he went for his liver function tests.But he doesn't seem to care. i am at my wits end as i feel my life is on hold as i try to help him.i physically assaulted him yesterday as he verbally attacked my son who is only 5.he called him nasty names and it wasn't the first time he done it either.i finally snapped and gave him a beating which is something i am not proud of. His wife has now filed for divorce as she has finally had enough and he is now homeless.Please can someone offer me some advice as at this rate he will be dead by next christmas and i don't know what else i can do.i fear this could also kill my poor dad who cries every day.

[colcath]

Untill he relises that he has a problem and wants to sort it out you cannot do much

[algunalguien]

hi. At the end you have to remembr that you have to live your life, and that no one else will live his life, but him. I think there is a gene realted to alcoholism, and sadly it runs in my family. When I was growing up, I saw my older brother drink, and although he was a happpy drunk, he was really miserabe, and I rmemeber feeling ashamed, and all sort of things, it was rally awful...Lots of things happened in his life, including being sent away by my mom and dad, this must have ben when he was mid to late 30, and then somehow he startd to change. I can not say how he did so, and although he is an alcoholoi, he will always be one, he doesnt drink now. But I do remember my mom telling me, that all that was happening was my brothers problem. that it was him who needed to do things for him. I know its not really an answer to your question, but I do hope it helps. If you want to chat, let me know.

[Amdrmgirl]

If you have been around alcoholics for 8 years then you should know by now that YOU can't do anything...THEY have to do it. I can't believe you actually beat him up. Shame on you

[Ernie]

You can't fix him. Go to al-anon and try to repair your lives. He may come around but it is up to him. You have done alot and it's not your fault the way he is.