My girlfriend has a mental problem, I still love...

[SoConfused]

...her? Ive been with my girlfriend for nearly two years on and off. She is bipolar, depressed, and has anxeity. Shes been treated by many doctors and is alot better now than she was when we first started dating, but still not good. She will get mad at me for nearly no reason at all and go days without talking to me. If I am around her shes been known to hit me, beat me, and since im a guy i will never lay a hand on her. I love her so much but have no clue what to do or how to handle this situation. I treat her like an angel. When shes her self she tells me how I deserve better. The good times are amazing, but the bad times nearly kill me. Its sent me into a depression and now im lost on what to do. Any suggestions please?Im 21, getting ready to graduate college and start a life with her. I'm one of the few people she has left and have stuck with her forever. Her family and friends have pretty much disowned her.

[Fel]

if it gets too messy, leave her, get back together again.if she's all that and more, it'll probably kill her if you said that you were going to leave. Sometimes you just have to be cruel to be kind.

[<3<3<3<3]

Well I think that maybe you need to look at what you really want. I feel very sorry for people who have mental disorders because they are almost trapped in their own bodies. They really are not themselves.We can not tell you what to do here. This is a deep personal choice that you need to make within yourself.If you do get married I would suggest nevering having children. Because mental disorders can be passed on.But my only suggestion is this look at what YOU want and decide with this includes your GF.

[victor]

Man thats tough! You have to choose how you wanna live the rest of you life! Its obvious its not gonna change and you might have to deal with this for a long time. Or you can move on and try to find someone you can live a normal life with. In all this thank God you have choice your not forced or stuck! If you can deal with it tho you should stay. I think eventually sooner than later you gonna snap.

[julia g]

Try your best to help her, if things cannot be changed...maybe you'd better be general friends... life has to go on, you have to find someone to get married...but hope things will turn for the better...

[freckles2]

Wow! ur dealing with alot of pressure from ur gf. I feel for u. I guess the only thing u can do is realise that she cant help the way she is. But you need to work out weather you can spend ur time going thro this all the time or ifyou think it would be better for you to leave. It sounds like you have a strong connection with her but if a guy was hitting a girl the authorities would be involved. Ithink the same should stand if it was the other way round. Maybe councilling would help her??good luck.

[jamesbuzon]

Love her, the rest will follow. Like most people I know say, God works in mysterious ways. Be true to your feelings and always hope for the best. Understand that she has a disorder and don't make this an excuse to leave her. Take care, if things go bad, always try your best to make them work

[myleslr]

She obviously needs much more treatments. If she is not on drugs, she should be. Sorry to say it but I know people with depression, bi-polar, schizophrenia, the lot (my half sister actually had extremely bad schizophrenia, she was in a mental institution for a time), and drugs DO help. If they don't, she needs something different.

[Fallen-Angel]

im depressed with a mild form of bipolar, been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and yeah the bad times kill me too. so she probbably feels the pain like you do. Tell her how much you love her- always smile and be strong for her... if she hits you dont hit her back, hold her hands firmly so she cant... suggest nice things to do like gloing to the cinema, make her feel special.. because I know first hand, that if a relationship is stressful when your in love with someone... it only makes things worse... if you continue to not show how depressed you feel to her, then when she acts better, happier.. then naturally your depression and strs will lift aswell... its hard, may aphrodite be with you.see how it works out for a month or so... if nothing has changed it would be better for the both of you to move on.because as much as you love each other.. its only going to end in tears in the long run

[Of_Mice_and_Men]

Youre a good man and i wish i had a bf like u. I am bi-polar as well and trust me its extremly tough. Your mind's like a whirlwind and ive suffered numerous anxiety attacks. We get depressed for no reason. When she gets all crazy..just give her a hug and tell her how much u love her.

[Mcr Vampire]

I do not know how old you are and I guess that it really does not matter. I do not care if she does have a mental condition or not-she should not be hitting, beating, or ignoring you for days. Her behavior cannot be excused!!! If she is functioning in the real world she is responsible for her actions. Love is blind on your part. Go find someone who will treat you as you treat them.

[jeana s]

Never been in love, can't tell you what you should do.. But let me tell you what I would do.Dump her. I am not a firm believer of "true love" conquer all. In essence, no point getting mental problems just to be with her. I assume the "nearly kill" you part is not a figurative term too. You do deserve better, at the end of the day, ask yourself, are you still in love with her? or do you feel responsible for her? Relationship should not be about obligation. Rationale being... if you start questioning,something in your heart had wavered and you already have something in your mind but just want us to confirm it for you..Good luck

[chele_belle19]

First off if it was a woman saying her boyfriend hits her sometimes, well we'd all be jumping up and down shoutingsaying leave him..... it's no different u being a bloke...I believe if someone wants help to get better then they can, u say she's seen lots of doctors?..i think she's attention seeking i don't believe she's trying enough....I think you should tell her to think about what she wants a get the help and help herself, it's not up to u she's an adult. I gave nearly 10 years of my life to a guy like this and it's really hard, he eventually ended up in hospital through the police and his doctor and i finally managed to leave and i've spent the last 2 and a half years seeing a councillor and listening to people telling me it wasn't my fault he was like that...So don't do it to yourself, u deserve better, no one has the right to treat u like that, if u break ur arm u get it reset and a plaster but only if u go to the hospital, same applies with ur head, she needs to accept she's ill and makes the effort to get better, but believe me if u r there for her to take her bad moods out on and give all the s*** to then she will keep doing it.... i no....u also need to talk to people about it, proffesional people as it affects u more than u no and realise....U can't fix her she has to want to do it herself and not take the easy and lazy route which is to dump it all on u again and again..u have a right to have a happy life, people like this are very selfish as much as they say they love u and u ought to leave them it's manipulation al the way..it's not nice to hear stuff about ur gf but eventually u will agree, i never thought i'd say or hear a bad word against my ex but believe me i can't believe i wasted 10 years of my life not being me, so please don't accept that behaviour u deserve better....god luck... x

[zhar]

I totally understand how you feel now. It will be very tough for you to leave her since she has nobody . More than you love her, you feel pity on her and hence you want to stay with her.
It will be really tough but if you love her, you can conquer anything.