What should I do if I’m having a communication...

[Gods Child]

...problem with some one very dear to my heart open to suggestions well we been linked togather for about 9yrs and he seem to think that i'm having an affair but I work full time,go to school full time in the evenings and to top it all off I am a full time mother of 10 yes I did say 10 any ideas anyone

[Deb W]

His insecurity is within himself, and nothing to do with you. It is something that he needs to work on, if he wants to have a lasting relationship with anyone. You sound blameless, and I can sense your frustration.

[Bubblione]

Try reading the book 5 languages of love. It opened a lot of doors for me. I have an extra copy, if you have a P.O. address I will send it to you for a late Christmas gift. Good luck!

[noones]

Maybe because youre so busy with everything else it seems like you dont have time for him. Make it a point when you come home to sit down and ask him how his day was. Or before you go to bed, or while laying in bed tell him you love him. I think hes just feeling insecure cause he doesnt have some alone time with you very often.

[Amy R]

I think it is time for a "bring your man to work day". I'm completely serious. If he knows that he can stop on by anytime as long as he helps you in whatever you are doing, he should quickly learn that what you are doing DOES eat all your time and if he wants a bigger piece of your world, he is welcome to pull up a chair and help stuff envelopes or type briefs. Just explain to your co-workers that he is having some trust issues and has promised to help when he does stop by and they will get used to putting him to work when he does show up. He should also get a feel for your family life, so I am thinking he can come over as long as he picks several topics for homework help and understands that if he drops by on laundry night, he might have to sort or fold - and he needs to get it right ;). SInce there is no reason to keep him out, he may as well see this. Chances are, he will quickly get bored of checking out your work and once the people you work with become regular people in his mind, he will stop letting his imagination run - besides, then you can tell him exactly what you are doing at work and he will know exactly how boring or difficult that task is and he can give you some well-deserved empathy! After 10 years, he should get a good dose of understanding - just tell him to take a day off and come along on one of your wonderful, exotic days so maybe he can show you where you could sneak a little nooky in. LOL

[Bernie R]

You have got to be kidding! Working full time, going to school full time and taking care of 10 children! How do you have time to think about men? It sounds like He's the one that wants to have the affair. I would drop the bum and let him crawl back to you on his hands and knees. If you do this, make sure you have him checked out for social diseases when he returns. I think you deserve better, but its your call. You sound very aggressive, get your schooling, become autonomous, and thumb your nose at the loosers.