Why are people so rude when it comes to teens

[Trina Moon]

getting pregnant? I've been reading around and I don't understand why people are so downright RUDE to teens who are pregnant.Sure, pregnancy and motherhood might not be the best thing for a teenager, but if it happens and they are taking responsibility for their actions, why bash on them?I'm a mother of two and I'm 19. I had my son when I was 15 and my daughter a little less than a month ago. I know that getting pregnant at 15 definitely wasn't the best idea I've ever had. But I didn't make excuses for myself and neither are any of these girls.If there are girls on here who are young and asking questions about pregnancy, you should PRAISE them.. not BASH them. Just because they're young, doesn't make them bad people. They're asking questions because they want to do this RIGHT. They might have not made the right decision getting pregnant, but they're trying to make the right decisions as mothers.I think some of YOU should be the ones doing the growing up. These girls already are.I'm not PROMOTING teen pregnancy. I seriously don't know what I will do if my daughter comes to me when she's a teenager and tells me she's pregnant. (KNOCK ON WOOD!) I've had this conversation with my husband far too many times and we don't know what we'll do. The only thing we agree on is fainting. Ha.But I'm just saying that IF a teenager DOES end up pregnant, there's no reason to bash on them if they're trying to do the right thing and raise their child.Yes, they're kids having kids.. But that's why they should get MORE praise. They're willing giving up THEIR childhood to raise a child. That's quite a sacrifice for a child to make. That should be praised, not bashed.

[cry_wolf]

people are jerks.

[Jack K]

I think they are so rude when it comes to teenage pregnancy is because it's not what they are used too, They think your not mature enough to take care of a child when A great percentage of teens are.

[Olivia J]

I agree with you - but I think some of it may come from mother's own fears. I can't imagine my little girl having a baby (not that she could yet) and when I see young, pregnant girls, I feel upset for them that they won't have their teenage years in the conventional way. I don't ever voice my opinion, and I wouldn't be rude to a pregnant girl. I would, however, strongly discourage a teenage girl from becoming pregnant.

[Alleshiea]

I couldn't agree more... besides, they are genuinely asking for help, on this site, why would you go around being cruel to people who have the guts to reach out and actually say I need help? I agree, some people should be more careful, and its a sad situation sometimes, but its happened to them, and you have no idea how it happened, so why bash them for it?People are just cruel and have no idea, no sympathy and no brains....

[~Kiss~]

I agree with you completely.. I also had my son at 15. I was mature and handled it just fine. People turned their noses up at me and acted if I had just murdered someone or something.Someone actually posted on here the other day about having teens be forced by law to have an abortion if they were to become pregnant. I was so offended by it.. teens can be just as good if not better then some women that become pregnant in their 30's . They were acting like all teen moms were just going to throw their babies in garbage cans..Drives me insane..!!

[tahunajcw]

I understand everything you are saying; no one should be rude, I agree.However, as a civilized society, we have decided that children having children is generally a bad thing for kids...and for our nation. We therefore do and say things to discourage young people from having kids before they are emotionally or financially ready to handle the difficult responsibility of parenting.its not the end of the world when a teenager has a child...but, it does mean her world won't be what it otherwise might have been.

[Chris O]

back in the day many teenagers had babies. my great grandma was 16, my grandma was 17...but the only difference is that they basically had to get married that young as well. it's a different time now, and if your parents are willing to help you out so you can finish school, what's wrong with that?

[Janna Katrina]

I may say, they are not being rude to teens getting preggy. Its just that they dont get what they expected from their children.Their teachings and parental guidance doesn't work. So, its being hopeless for them to see that their crystal child cant be the same as they wanted to be.But...they should have a full support to their young moms. They dont have anybody to cling on.

[vanessa c]

i think people are rude on here because alot of teens think its a big joke and take it lightly. just look at some of the questions. if they had to pay the hospital bills, buy the formula, pay the sitter, they'd be a bit more careful. older adults, who have worked hard and paid their taxes, are just tired of footing the bill and cannot figure out how these young adults can let this happen. and you have to admit it happens alot more than 20, 30 years ago. and while not one young mother regrets having her child now, you know there is at least once in awhile that they had wished they were more careful,,,admitted or not.edit on your edit...i don't know what questions are showing up on your yahoo, but the excuses are never ending on here. she forgot to take her pill, she can't remember if he wore a condom the last time, he pulled out,,,,,PRAISE THEM? out of the mouth of a child who had a child. very few girls get pregnant on purpose at a young age. its a mistake that happens. no matter IF ITS A GOOD THING NOW OR NOT...its something that the female sex has had to endure for ages. and more women your age don't have husbands. you are sitting there, acting like an old married woman, knowing it all. HA. teenage pregnancy is something women have to BEAR when a mistake happens. don't get me wrong here, i'm a woman, have grandkids that weren't planned, blahblahblah,,,but you asked about society's attitude about teenage mothers. i agree with some of what you said,,,but you have alot to learn as well. BUT kudos for all women who raise a child alone,,my mother raised 5 by herself after my father bailed. interesting what mrs wilson had to say,,,just what i was thinking about the responders.

[eringobraghless]

I never think it is necessary to be rude, but the truth is, teenage moms are compounding the error of getting pregnant by keeping the baby.....shuffling it off onto their own moms to raise (or worse, daycare), either not finishing school (bad move), or getting some bogus continuation school diploma that is useless. But the biggest mistake you make is in thinking that at 15, or 19, you can be the kind of mom you would have been at 25...and no matter how good you think you are at being a mom, you can't be ANY kind of a dad. You are cheating your children out of a vital part of their lives. Fathers are not irrelevant, and it was intended as part of the process.Edit: I'm wondering about what the teenage moms are going to teach THEIR children...that it is ok to engage in behavior that any alley cat can do? They treat these babies like possessions....(he's MINE, so THERE!), instead of persons, with a right to grow up in a family. I also find it interesting that they all talk about what a great job they have......but never about what a cruddy job their daycare provider has, or the REALLY cruddy job their kid has, growing up in a room jammed with kids dumped there by their moms. My cat has a better deal.I would hope that the decisions they make at 25 will be different from the ones they made at 15....it's called GROWTH, and if they think they would be the same (because they know best), it's called "arrested development".

[sdsrfbum69]

Sigh... Babies having babies. So are all of these teenagers that are having babies productive and wise members of society? How can you teach a child right from wrong when you don't have a clue at 15 years old? You need some life experience first.How can you take responsibility for your actions when you are pregnant at 15? Are you taking monetary responsibility for your child? Probably not. What excuses do these teen mothers give the welfare office in order to collect a check? Accepting government assistance is not taking responsibility for your actions. I'm the one who is taking responsibility for your actions through the taxes I pay.

[slydfox]

Good on you :) i totally agree with you, i DO think it's a shame when teens become pregnant but sometimes it isn't what people think. The circumstances could vary and too many people judge on age. I myself personally didnt loose my virginity until i was 18 but that was because i was insecure in myself, I am still with the father of my soon to be daughter and we are palnning on getting married when she is old enough to be flower girl :)(Im 20) I have a job already lined up for after she is born and he has a permanant job. Yes we still live with his mum but she would rather that then us struggle to pay rent etc and we do pay her board to cover our costs.I live in Australia and will recieve the baby bonus after she is born but i will not be using it for buying stupid stuff i am going to be paying off bills with it so that i dont ahve as much to pay with her around. I don't know if i've gone off the subject but just letting everyone know that teens can be independant and mature and sometimes family circumstances have made them that way, I was looknig after my brother and sister when i was 11 who at the time were 8 and 3, it made me grow up quickly.

[potblackettle]

People should not "bash" teen mothers, they should provide moral support and encourage them to continue their education.However, teenage pregnancy should not be PRAISED, that will just lead to more teenage pregnancy. The fact that society has become increasingly accepting of single motherhood and teenage pregnancy has helped increase both things (teenage pregnancy is on the rise). I'm not saying either of these are terrible things that make the woman a bad mother, I'm just pointing out that they are not the ideal conditions for raising a child.The proper way to help teenagers is to teach them about safe sex and birth control and provide support to those girls who do become pregnant. Free daycare for teenage mothers that would allow them to finish school would be a great start.I think tahun made great points. No one should be rude or cruel, but children having children is generally not a good idea.This is why EVERY TEENAGER should have access to low-cost or free birth control.I think every teenage mother out there would tell you that she hopes her daughter will not become pregnant as a teenager. Does this mean they don't love their child? No. It means they're being practical and see that it's not the best path to follow.

[breegehemi]

i praise those teens who do take responsibility. i don't think that i've seen alot of a people bashing teens who are asking for help more or less the ones who are asking how to get pregnant and what they can do to avoid it.