My parents breaking up marriage?

[iya]

At 24 when i had to get married my parents objected to guy his family etc he was in his 30s good family dr working abroad.They said they couldnt give me $40Kinheritance+my house share which i needed since they never gave it for my college i had to pay myself through college.They said by 1 year they would give it back.Now at 26 when i want to get married they havent given money nor do they meet or talk to guy for marriage when guy or his parents want to meet my family.All my father does is spend it watching tv or sleep or doing hobbies hes retired.My mother goes at 8 am till 8pm to her friends place & other places on Sundays she sleeps or does errands when shes free she attends parties.I have no idea what to tell guy or his parents when they want to meet my parents.If i elope im scared guy or his parents will take me for granted without family.I think my parents want me to elope with someone without having to pay money so they are avoiding it.What do i do?

[Freakout]

Are u sure they are your parents and not someone who adopted you....please check again?Tell them u are pregnant and if they talk marraige than get it done and if they talk about abortion than you better runaway because they don't give a shit about you......solved.

[gizmo]

convince ur parents more..but if they say no i think u should trust their wisdombut u also should follow ur heartso wat i say is that u should do wat u think is right but think of wat ur life wil be in the next decade b4 doing anything without thinking through it fully.

[wombat stew]

I think you should have a serious and honest chat with your parents to see what's on their mind. Once you've done that, and if the only reason they don't want to meet your fiance's family is because they don't care, I think you're going to have to accept this and live with it. Get married in whatever way you can afford and make yourself a nice new, communicative and supportive family with your partner and inlaws.

[child4jc74]

if you love this guy and you want to marry him do it have a small wedding at a church or his parents' home send written invites to your parents if they come oh well if they dont show oh well you are still marrying the man you love apologize sincerely to his parents tell them you dont understand why ur parents are acting like this but you think it is because they owe you money. and if they dont show when you have gotten married and when you start having a family of your own consider not letting your parents be a part of babies life if they cant do this for you now- when u need them

[Nna g]

Can you come up with the money by yourself? Surely if you can come up with the money for your college tuition you can as well come up with the money you need for the wedding. (i assume thats what you need the money for).And have you talk to your parents seriously? Maybe you havent had that serious talk, thats why they assumed your just joking around. Certainly there's one day in a month that your parents are around. In the evening, i supposed to have that talk and when your grooms family can visit you at your home. What do you mean about your parents having to pay money? to whom? ...for the wedding?Should you and your soon to be husband get a civil wedding.?

[docfreudianslip]

Have u heard the saying give someone ur finger & they hold onto ur hand?Seems like ur parents have no idea of giving back ur money & feel that if they talk or meet any guy u bring home to marry then they feel they will have to give money at any cost this is why they are doing this way.Well if ur current guy & his parents want to meet ur parents forget it.Find a guy who makes his own decisions then tell him lets get married in a court house or registrar office before it tell ur parents u want money by certain date & time(i wouldnt give them more then 3 months)then have ur money kept in bank on deposit have ur own wedding with ur guy without anyone else