I Need Help With Sex?

[Britt o]

ok well i was a virgin like 2 years ago and when i first had it it hurt..ya i already knew that but when he left me a year passed and i got with another its been 4 months and we already had sex liek dosenz of times and no i aint a whore but it still hurts and i cant get an orgasim at all ..is there something wrong with me..bcz i have had sex lots of times and it hurts liek hell still and like after 30 mins i still dont orgasim...and i dont know what to when my bf when he comes to soon....he dont know what to do to stop him from comeing to soon..plz help me

[Oscar M]

umm im not relly a speaccialist in this but maybe u should stop for a year or so and if it still hurts then u should probably call the doctor.k?

[virgogonono]

There is nothing wrong with you. It should hurt, but it should be satisfying. There is something wrong, but not with you. My momma always said that if you couldn't enjoy it or iit hurt you that you need to find someone that can please you. This man isn't right for you.

[neoga illinois]

you get more action than i do. i cant give you any advice. maybe you can give me advice.

[Lina D]

Okay well first of all. Most women don't reach their first orgasam until their mid-life or older! (a real orgasam) so you may be one of those many who don't. Second of all if it still hurts a lot than you should go to your gyno. To stop a guy from comming too soon you might wanna try slowing down or tell him to focus on something else!! Good luck!

[optitkl]

Are you telling us that someone actually has sex with you? Are they as dumb as you?

[A * T]

you're not going to orgasm until you can relax during sex & that won't happen if you're in pain. Since you're sexually active you should be seeing a gyno, explain the situation to them. Honestly it sounds like you & your partners may be too inexperienced (young) to know how to do it so the other enjoys it too.

[slimhoosier]

i can't answer your question, but you should know that just because you had sex it does not make you a whore. a whore is someone who will sleep with anyone and if anyone tells you differenty give them the finger and tell them they have their heads stuck up their asses.

[Nicole Y]

no, HE is doing it wrong. guys can get off very easily, but us girls, there is SO much to pay attention to. first of all, you might be going at the action too fast, and foreplay is left out. Women need to be MENTALLY stimulated rather than physically. so if youre skipping this step, youre probably not entirely aroused. secondly, you and your partner should try different postitions to find the one you feel most comfortable with. and thirdly, LUBE IS YOUR FRIEND!and ALWAYS use protection. and be smart!

[King James]

perhaps ur not getting lubed up enough. try foreplay for example him going down

[mysty_1969]

First off I don't think anything is wrong with you. You are probably facing the same problem as many women. The man you are with is not taking the time or effort to get you aroused enough to enjoy the act; thus, you are dry and it hurts. You might want to get some lube like K-Y Jelly and see if that helps. As to his being quick on his release, that is a problem only he can solve. Probably since he is not getting you aroused he is only interested in his own pleasure and thinks a quick orgasm is the answer. Then then lack of orgasm on your part is something many, many women find difficult if not impossible to reach without some kind of additional stimulation. When your boyfriend is not stimulating you, and you hurt there is no way you should expect to have an orgasm. If you masturbate pay special attention to where and how you receive the most pleasure, then repeat this same procedure while you are having sex with your boyfriend. This is probably something you will have to do if you are hurting or not. Always remember it takes much more stimulation to get a woman properly aroused then it does for a man to be aroused. If your boy friend is not will to do what it takes then you should decide if he is good enough for you or not. This is something to also look at in all you future relationships. Many men are only interested in their own satisfaction and do not care about their partner.

[CynCity]

First off sounds like your way too young to be having sex in the first place, just guessing by the way you have worded your question. But it is almost impossible for a woman to have an orgasim through intercourse alone. Most women need clitoral stimulation as well. If he's orgasiming too soon, that's his problem. He needs to learn how to control it. My hubbie can go for hours because he knows what he's doing. And if he's not an anaconda you might have a some sort of problem if it still hurts during sex. It shouldn't hurt. But foreplay does help with that. God I hope your old enough for me to be saying this to you. If your not STOP HAVING SEX!!!