What can I do, I lost my daughter due to kidney and...

[Pamela S]

...heart failure . It's been 7 weeks and I can' go on We have been fighting a 5 year battle. She was feeling good, she had to stick herself everyday and hook up to a machine to clean her blood. I know in my head she is not suffering anymore, but my heart is full of pain. She was 32.

[Marie N]

I am so sorry for your loss. Did you talk to your daughter's doctor? Maybe he can give you some support groups to go to. You can also go to a religious leader like a priest to give you advice. Don't give up.

[onekewlscouter]

It is very difficult to loose a daughter. My wife and I lost ours at two months due to heart failure, and her heart failure then caused other organs to fail including the kidneys. We were lucky, and had a lot of freinds to help us deal with the grief. But also, due to a lot of anxiety caused by the event we went to our doctor and were prescribed adavan (spelling might be wrong). I suggest you talk to your doctor soon. 7 Weeks is still too soon (I remember), in fact our daughter would be five now, and we still grieve her loss. You need to give yourself much more time. I don't think the pain goes away, it just gets easier to handle.Finally, in our community there was a support group called 'ended beginnings' for parens of lost children. Such a group in your area might help.I know your pain is real, and I share it with you. I sincerely hope you find the support you need to carry on.

[Cathy H]

Im sorry that you are in pain. A year and a half ago, I felt the same way. The pain was so overwhelming, I couldnt breathe, think clearly, or put in words exacting what was happening to me. I tried everything i could, hoping something would help me not feel this horrible pain. I abused drugs for a year, which took me down even farther. A friend gave me a book on grieving, i could only read a few pages at a time, and when i finished the book, the references in back, listed some organizations, i looked them up on the internet, sat in a chat room with people going through the very same thing. Eventually i gained strength to talk about it. Im better, i can get through a day without breaking down. Its progress for me.

[Teresa]

I am so sorry. My best advice is to think about how SHE would want YOU to be living right now and then do just that. Would she want you to resume your work, hobbies, activities, and then think of her smiling face when you go to bed at night?A friend of mine lost his wife in August to colon cancer. She was 48. He threw himself into his work to avoid throwing himself into alcohol and depression. For Thanksgiving he took her ashes to Cape Cod, where she loved to be, and he scattered them. I knew her and knew that she would not want him to drown his sorrows every day.There is no greater pain than losing a child; at any age. Find a bereavement support group and cherish your memories. Believe that you will see her again someday. I hate to throw religion on people, but I do believe that God loans us people and when they have completed their tasks on earth, they are called back. Everything happens for a reason. Had my father not lost two brothers (as kids) to drunk driving, I may have grown up differently and not cared about alcohol and become a drunk. Instead, my siblings and I abstained because we knew it was that which killed them.