abortion...i need help, please!?

[shawrtia]

i'm 16 and pregnant..my bf is 20. what rights do i have when it comes to abortion...my father is forcing me to have an abortion, but me and my bf want to have the baby...seeing how i'm a minor, do i have the right to say, "no, i dont want the abortion", do you need me and my bf's consent for the abortion to take place? please tell me all i need to know. thank you!

[kidmindi]

I do not think your father can force you to have an abortion. Talk to a teacher or counselor at your school and see what your rights are.

[NickynJessie H]

No one can force you to have an abortion. It's your body kiddo. Good Luck on any decision you make.=0)

[TeeTee]

No matter what age you are, you cannot be forced into an abortion..You could, however, be cut off from your family....I personally would never have an abortion, I would rather be kicked out. Good luck and congrats!

[*Mommy2Be*]

Your father can NOT make you have an abortion. If he brings you to the clinic to have one tell the doctor you do not and will not have an abortion. The doctor at that point cannot do the abortion against your will. Good luck and congrats!!!

[Katz]

Of course you have the right, no one can force you to get an abortion if you don't want, and I think it's really good that you want to have the baby.

[Victoria1234]

It's YOUR body. You have the right to say no. You should talk to a school counselor, a teacher, or another adult to help you out.

[Shaima]

don't do it.good luck

[trevor e]

an abortion is killing a soul. it is killing your child. they do an abortion by ripping off the childs arms and legs and crushing its head. did yu know that. is that what you want to do to your first child? if i were you keep the child stick u to your father and say "NO!" tell your father its rong and he would be responsible for killing a child. your first child.

[W'ever]

Dont get the abortion, convince you dad that killing a baby/fitus isnt the way to go

[tigerface2002]

First of all I want to pat you on the back for not wanting to rush off and have an abortion like so many others would have your age. I'm proud of you to want to step up and take care your situation without taking the life of your baby.As far as your situation, I'm really not sure. I would not think that you have to go according to your fathers wishes at 16. But to find out for sure I would go talk to some type of crisis center. They should have your answers. Where I live the place to go would be a place called Planned Parenthood. There you could even get low cost or no cost prenatal care.

[Figneuton]

Please, before you talk to anyone else, talk to your school counselor and your doctor! Yes, you do have the right to say no to an abortion. My personal advice along with this- don't wait until the embryo is a fetus to have an abortion if you so choose. Have it right away.

[brittany f]

your dad can not make u have an abortion the only person who can make that decision is you...the only thing ugotta worry about is if ur dad will press charges against ur bf for being 20, depending on the state.wat u can do is go down an get free medical care an in the meantime get a job an a place u an ur bf and u can even go get emancipated u jus have to prove u can take care of urself i had one done when i was 16 an i dont reccomend it if u have any questions u can email me at babychica6192000@yahoo.com

[Proud Mama of 3]

Yes you have every right to say no to an abortion. If he forces you to go to the dr.s, tell the dr. you do not want one. Boyfriend does not have to consent. It is only your decision. The dr. can help you get support. Tell you of agencies you may want to use, whether it be adoption or for keeping your baby. Good luck. God bless.

[~HeAtHeR~]

Wait a min and relax.... It is your body and your choice no-one can make the choice for you it is a decicion you will have to live with for the rest of your life it is in your hands. To help you in your choice of what to do I will play some situations to you to which at the end you do what you feel to be right for you and no one else!1. (party/fun luvin life)You are 16 I had my son @ 21 and whoa life changing it won't be about you it will be about the child every thing you do will/ needs to be about this child! no parting less to no hangin out with friends (like a 16 lifestyle) you don't even get to do a 21drinking bash and when you do the baby will be 5yrs old??2. (all by yourself) I don't care how much he says he loves you how do you know he will be there for you after, more importaint is he going to be there for your child?? raising a child alone even @ 21 not easy (i had to move back in w/ my parents fo a while and even still @28 get help from them from time to time) My sons father owes me $10,000.00+ in child support to even think about trying to get the $ is worse them not getting the money, court, lawyers, adjurnments, etc. sucks!! Visitation how long do you have him, how long does he have him, holidays split birthday split.. on and on and thats if he bothers with him at all, (dead beat dad) It was fun to make them but not so love, care and support them....3. diapers @ $22+ right now 1-2-3 time a month for 3-5 years and pull ups afterwards @ $14-25 1-2-3 times a month for a year or two. formula $$$$$$$$ go price it and a new born eats every 3 hours (sleep ...not really for you) the oplder they get the more they eat then starts baby food $$$$$$$ go price it half a jar at first the as much a 2-3 at a sitting little snacks to help start the solid food chewing etc $$$ price them table food not to bad but picky eaters can cost$$I want you to go to walmart or target or any dept store near you and price some thigs you will need.here is a list to help but please do look oh and bring a calculator you will need itcloths eg, onesies (a lot kisd spit up and need to be changed a lot)pants, shirts, sleepers, socks, etc diapers, wipes, rash ointment, powder, baby oil, baby shampoo, a baby tub,basinet, crib, crib bedding, blanket/sheets (you will need a few sets, leaky diapers, spit up, (babys stuff needs to always be changed after these sometimes 2-3 times or more in a 24 hr period,) baby laudry detergent, baby soap, highchair, car seat (infant, toddler, booster)different sizes as they get bigger!, stroller, walker, toys, Oh and best of all $ wise they out grow cloths .....ALOT so check out clothing prices and how often sizes change 0-3 months 3-6 6-9 9-12 1t 2t 3t 4t 5t 6t 7t then they move to bigger more$$ clothing, oh i forgot coats hats mitten gloves (if ya live where it snows) and by the time the next winter get there they have out grown what they were in last year or barely fit so ya need to get new, price them, just run around the baby section of the store and add add add getting everthing i needed for my child after i had a baby shower cost me over $2000.00 5yrs ago!!! doctor bills dentist billsschool shopping lunch money. college $70,000+ now a daysI don't want to scare you to a decision I jast want you to be aware and prepared!!! I have and still struggle as a single parent to make ends meet, I make $600.00 a week (that is $15.00 an hour) before taxes and I live paycheck to paycheck, You need to be prepared for the long lifetime road that lies ahead you need to be aware and prepared and I know i have left things out too! you will have someone depending on you 24hours a day for the rest of your life! What you want will get pushed aside and this baby this child will come before everything in your life!4. Everything will be perfect and you him and the baby will live happily ever after awww fairy talesthere are plenty of more situations besides the above with what might or will happen either way it will be a tough decision to make and one you will have to live with I find there to be nothing wrong with either choice yo umake as long as you make it! If you can justify to yourself (and it only has to be with yourself) the choice you make that is all you need but you need to know in your heart you are ready for this path you wish to choose a child is a big responsibility your life will no longer be about you it will be about this child.your father is afraid, upset, angry, and scared because you were once his baby you depend on him he knows what lies ahead for you to go threw and I think he beleves you might not be ready for this as far as you are still his child (and yes your 16 your getting older ) but in his eyes you are his child just as someday you will have a child and want what you feel is best and I know he wants what he feels is best for you 7 out of 10 kids today are raised by one parent those aren't good odds (no matte how much he loves you and says he will be there for you there is never a way to know 100%)I am glad that you are looking for advice and you should but you need to ask you what you need and what you want but don't just pick!oh and there is one more thing you didn't mention there is also adoption... if you can't live with abortion but you know you are not ready it is a good alternative and most adopted children want to know why and if you are honest and tell them the truth you will always have a palce with them (you can just type adoption in your search engine and a lot pops up to research oh if ya want someone to talk to about it e~mail me @ phreak812ck@yahoo.com just put your question above as the subjectI won't ever pick sides between you, your parents, your boyfreind or your choice but just to talk if ya need someonegood luck wish you the best and remember the decision needs to be yours!

[moni]

Please dont have an abortion! its basically murder! its sad and you never know...this baby can be the next albert einstein!...please dont! u no its the right thing to do