I had a miscarriage a year ago...and my...

[1ofakind]

...heart still hurts.? I miscarried into my 3rd month. Up until recently,I thought I was ok. I thought that my heart had healed.I mean, mothers day this year was hard...but I made it. Well, its around the time that my baby would have been 1yr old. And im breaking down. Hard. I know everything happens for a reason, but if theres anyone out there going through this, please help me and tell me how you did it. All I find myself thinking about is the life that could have been and all the love I have to give. I really didnt think it was going to be this hard, a year later. And I am just at a loss on how to handle it. I have been in tears for days now and its getting hard to hide from everyone.

[Pedsgurl]

Aww, sweetie...No one can blame you for feeling upset about this. No one can replace the baby you lost and you will always have a special place for that baby in your heart, even though you never held the baby in your arms. Allow yourself to feel sad but then you have to find a way to carry on, to have other babies, to be a good family member and friend. Maybe you shouldn't hide anymore. Don't hide your tears, let your friends and family comfort you. Cry on their shoulders and let them know how you are feeling. Share your burden. You will feel better and then can begin to heal. I am so sorry for your loss.

[antoinette c]

im so sorry for what you had and is going through dear of course its going to hurt and take you a while to get over what happen but eventually you will you might think as it as something of u is lost and gone but look at it like this its something that will always have a part of u like the effect i wish u good luck dear take care

[bullymommy25]

I have had one live child and three miscarriages. I am now pregnant and made it past the danger zone to my fourth month. The only way to really deal is to realize that miscarriage is the body's natural way of rejecting a child who would develop severe abnormalities or retardation. Many women have multiple miscarriages, sometimes even before they know they are pregnant. You can mourn the child that COULD have been, but you must find a way to release that soul so that you can find peace. If you are spiritual, perhaps you can believe that this child will be sent back to you for another chance at being born into a healthy body. Miscarriage is completely natural, no fault of yours. Often times what you think is the loss of a living child is actually an embryonic sac that failed to develop a fetus, though the pain is no less real. The best advice, what worked for me, is to understand that I would not be able to raise a severly deformed or retarded child, and thank God that he made my body able to cast off what would not have developed properly or at all. As harsh as it seems, it is only nature, and nature (and God) knows better than I do. You WILL go on to have children, and be a wonderful mother, but you will not be ready to do this until you accept that which you cannot change. If you are still struggling, it is entirely possible that you have developed depression, again thru no fault of your own, and seeking some help will only better your chances to conceive and deliver a healthy baby. Good luck to you.

[beekay]

I wish I could package up a big box of comfort and ship it to you. I know the pain but from a different angle and I long for the day when there will be no more pain. For now remember that being able to have a loved one for 3 months is better than not at all. Cherish the time you were able to carry, nourish, protect, and love your child.

[moonstone2009]

ok honey i am a 25 yr. old mother of two children both pregnancies were twins but i lost one baby from both pregnancie i understand your hurt . but please try to heal yourself because if you dont you can end up on depression meds. like me. i dont know whitch is harder having one of the twins and losing one both times or going throuhg what you are. all i can really say is it will get better in time and you know that you can always try again .

[debbie F]

I had amiscarriage in the middle of May, it was a hearbreaking experience and my baby is always in my heart. i felt like it was my fault but i realised i did everthing i could to keep him/her healthy, i even quit smoking!my family and (ex) bf now, got me through it i still have a tear now and then but just remember you can still go on and have a healthy baby even after a miscarriage.i still have never got over what i have lost, just be strong and your not alone, talk to people dont hide it - nothing to be ashamed of at all