Guys and Ladies, Is it ok to date 2 people at a...

[My Dear]

...same time? I've been dating a guy for almost an year. He's been very good and nice to me. We have so much fun going out. But he hasn't asked me to be his gf officially yet, you know like kiss me and hold my hands. It's kind of confusing. I gave him hints like standing close to him (shoulder to shoulder, hip to hip) or look into his eyes ect. But still he's like not making moves. So I don't know if i should continue to see him or not. Then i just found out from my friends that my coworker has a crush on me. And he asked me if i had a bf and if i wanted to go see movie with him when we have time after work sometime. I told him i don't have a bf yet (not lying because not sure what other guy is thinking). So should I go out with the 2nd guy?By the way the 1st guy is not seeing other girls after he met me.

[Joe Fooled]

not so long as you gargle between dates.

[Salami]

No way, you have to choose. One of them can be your bf and one can be your friends, but not both be your bf. How would you feel if you realised that your bf was going out with someone else as well, just because you're not making the right moves. You need to talk to him and sort it out.

[shortii47]

well b 4 u make n e rash decisions...u should talk to this guys that uv been *talking* to for a while and c what he considered u guys... cuz that way if hes like just friends.... than u can go out wit that other kid and if hes liek o were together.. then u can tell that othger kid that u cant... cuz sum guys just dont liek to talk about sutff liek this.. so mayb he thinks ur *together* but he hasnt realli came out n said it.... *i realli hope this helps*

[terliuke]

I don't know what the deal of the first guy is but you should definitely consider seeing other people. You made no commitment. You didn't agree to be exclusive, so you have a right to see other people, if you want to.I am surprised that you have been going out for a year and he didn't even try to kiss you. He might consider you as a friend or he might be gay. But in either case, you should ask him honestly what is going on.I don't know how old you are but if you are over 20 and didn't make any commitment, it's okay to date two people at the same time. Everyone does it. But when you get serious with one of them, you have to stop seeing another one.

[kicks139]

You could go out with the 2nd guy cause you are not dating the other one. If you really want something with the first guy then ask him out and find out if something could work with you guys and if it did them go for it but if not then at least you know you have someone else you can see if you would like two.

[anonymously-unknown]

if you are not serious with either of them, then i guess you could go out with both..but in terms of just friends. but, dont be secretive about one another. tell the guy youre going out with that you are going out with another guy as well but just as friends. once you are committed to one (lets say the 1st guy finally officiates you as his gf) than dont go out with the other one on a date...

[Judith]

Sounds like your current bf is gay. Since he isn't meeting your basic needs, I would date others & let him know that you are or that you're planning to do so. Then leave it up to him; see if he wants to continue being a friend since that's all he is now.

[redhawgs]

be honest. ask the 1st guy if he want's a commitment? you are dating for almost a year --- commitment is kindof implied. btw - what are you looking for? you ready to get married and have a family and relationship? if so...then pick one.

[Ian Michael V]

yes, date the 2nd guy!it will help the 1st guy to realize that his not the only man on earththat there is a 2nd guy waitingi know its hard for the 1st guy to say how much you mean to him, so dating somebody can trigger the sleeping volcano of emotions to explodebut you know, it maybe better if you try to reach the inside of that volcano(1st guy), maybe there is something on him that blocks his heart, reach him