Should I stop worrying about a...

[La Reina]

...miscarriage? I am 23 weeks pregnant and I have always worried that I would have a miscarriage. There is no apparent reason for me to be worried. I only thought that something would go wrong because I tried to conceive for 4 years before actually having success. I know that they say that if you will miscarry, it will usually be by 20 weeks but I have heard of people having miscarriages in their 3rd trimester. I have been going in for regular doctors visits and ultrasounds and I just had one yesterday and she says that everything looks great. She says that the baby is a healthy weight and its organs are developing beautifully. I just want to know if I should still be worried. I want everything to go well but I can't help this thought I have in my head. Should I stop worrying if every time I go they tell me that my baby is in perfect condition?

[Adeel C]

Hi.Yeah, I think this kind of thinking is very normal. It's due to you having tried to conceive for four years and you now can't believe that it's finally happening..that your finally pregnant.The only thing you can do is have faith in God. We are not in control of life and death.Try not to worry about and ask God for a healthy child everyday.:-)

[Shira H]

stop worrying, it only gives you more stress which is not good for the baby!

[innocent_azn_nymph]

I believe that no matter what, you'll always be worried. I know I am. I'm going to worry about a miscarriage until I give birth to my baby. And after that, I'm going to worry about SIDs and other stuff until my baby can walk and talk and feed itself. That's when I worry about other things.I think you shouldn't stop worrying, instead, you should worry less if each time you go to your check up and you're told that your baby is in perfect condition. There are always accidents. I've heard of women losing their babies because of car accidents.

[lizincali]

It's normal to worry. whether this is your first in four years of "trying" or you sixth "accident" in six years you're going to worry about something going wrong up until you have your baby crying in your arms. then your going to worry for the next 30/40 years for different reasons. the main thing is to not let your fear become the most important thing right now.

[vickersja]

First off, congratulations. After 4 years of trying, I am happy for you. First off, are you taking prenatal vitamins? I know folic acid is very important, and your doctor may have prescribed something. Miscarriages can be caused by stress. So, please try not to worry too much. Just take care of yourself.

[akleba]

no, you have no reason to worry about it. 20 weeks is pushing a miscarriage. Some people have late miscarriages but that is only into the 4th month which is at latest 16 weeks. Your doctor would be able to tell if there was anything wrong at this point that would cause a miscarriage. Most woman have a miscarriage within the first 10 weeks of pregnancy. I worried like you during my first pregnancy but knew better than that for my second. My third pregnancy i had a miscarriage but that was because my body was not ready for another baby. Now I am pregnant with number 4. I am worried this time but it is because I'm only 5 weeks along and had a miscarriage 5 months ago. You don't have a reason to worry, so stop. Enjoy your pregnancy

[emmy_maddi]

Yes please stop worring about it. If they say your baby is fine then the baby is fine. You stressing about it is not going to do either you or the baby any good. Just relax and enjoy your pregnancy or it will be over and you would not have enjoyed the time. You will have a beautiful baby. Relax!

[*La_ChIcAnItA*]

I Went Through The Exact Same Thing But In My First Trimester And Like You Said, I Had No Apparent Reason To Feel That Way. The Only Way I Got Over It Was To Enjoy My Pregnancy And Take Good Care Of Myself. If The Doctor Said Everything Is Going Great, Dont Stress Yourself Out. Its Not Good For You Or Your Baby. Enjoy Your Little One And Eat Healthy. Good Luck And Congrats!

[MISS-MARY]

Yes, you are worrying over a problem that you don't have. This is normal, all pregnant women worry, if they are really wanting the baby and are normal! We always think the worst and it's really the time to be enjoying that you are pregnant and that they are telling you its all good! Try to enjoy this time and remember the Bible says that worry won't change a thing so we aren't supposed to worry. It's not good or healthy to worry. Think of it that way and relax a little. Congrats!! Miss Mary

[missdarkstar]

well at this point, your miscarriage rate is very low. As long as you are being told everything's fine, you are fine. In my experience, due to a miscarriage in 9/2006, i was afraid of miscarrying when i learned I was pregnant in 1/2007......at this point, you should be able to feel your baby moving. That gives you an indication your baby is fine on its own......but i also found comfort in renting a doppler. its like $25/month.....it gave me comfort knowing if i felt something was wrong, i could grab the doppler and listen to my baby's heart beat to make sure he was still alive in there.....after 16 wks i didnt need it that much because my baby boy was extremely active in utero until he was born. you may want to check out the doppler thing so you wont stress as much....i rented from belly beats. good luck!!

[beckyloo24]

I know exactly how you feel..I have been trying for 6 1/2 years and had one miscarriage 4 years ago...i am now 24 weeks pregnant...i have a large cyst on my left ovary and see 3 different doctors so i see at least 1 of them every week...i can't even count how many ultrasounds i have had...every single visit i have been told about how great my baby is growing...but i still worry every day...it's easy for people to say don't worry...but it's hard not to when you have waited so long for this...i get my mind off the bad thoughts by enjoying all the movements i feel inside frim the baby...and by looking at all the ultrasound pictures and imagining the day i will finally get to hold him...congratulations and good luck!!!!

[AgentNightFire]

Try not to worry too much. Of course as a mom you will. I think that if the doctor says everything looks well, you shouldn't worry too much. Just continue to take up her recommendations and guidlines. Eat well, get enough rest, get some exercise, etc. Laugh, have fun, enjoy the fact that you'll be a mom!Sometimes miscarriages happen for no reason and cannot be explained. A friend of mine lost her baby: although I am certainly no doctor, she was going through a tough time--she was in debt from the baby and previous medical issues, she was trying to pay off her student loans and her relationship with the baby's father had soured very badly and she was intending to raise the child without help from him or her parents.I realize it's easier said and done. Just try to relax. Give yourself time at night or during the day to meditate, take a hot bath, enjoy a good book/tv show/movie, call a friend. Congrats on the new addition to the family!! :)