are the parents of pregnant teens responsible for

[Mia ♥ Abe & Petey]

the pregnancy? i have seen many teen pregnancies while in highschool, mind you i have been out of highschool for 2 years, but while in highschool i saw these pregnant teensi wasnt even thinking about sex...why because my parents raised me to know that sex is after marriage -- i did wait until my wedding night! but do you believe that the parents are to be held responsible? if you are a parent of a teen pregnancy, do you feel responsible for not leading him/her in the right path?i saw one case in particular where the mother allowed the teen go out and have fun while the grandma took care of the infant...in my opinion the 'mother' chose to have sex and she should take care of the consequence that came out of it...i completely agree with you Charli...there are so many women or teens out there that have too much freedom when they should be watching their children...thanks christina you gave me more info than i had first though ofi got a couple teens that think i was being rude...i am not trying to offend anyone...i just want to know what was the cause...and who is to blame for this situation...unfortunatly i believe the parents have more to do with it than many believe...

[Brittz]

I dont believe the parents are responsible. I've seen children raised as strict catholics and then all the sudden when they hit the highschool time period they totally rebel out and do their own things and the things they are infulenced to. It's the child making their own choices in life, not the parents. Parents cant do anything except talk to their kids about safe sex and hope for the best anymore.

[Everett]

kinda sorta :\

[w j]

yes and no, my mum raised me well with sex etc and i had my son at 18 i was also raised to work hard and now me and my husband have careers have a house a new car etc and are awaiting a new arrival in may 08 sex is a natural act and when your young with hormones sometimes you make rectless decisons, but sometimes its also that the parents didnt teach them about sex and the morals of sex well enough some simply allow it others make it so taboo that children do it as there way of rebelling i think you have to sit and teach your children the morals of sex and if your religous teach them about the religous side of sex im not religous but i believe that some religons have great morals when it comes to that and if you pass on your belifs and morals it becomes something more then just a thing to do or a fad it becomes something they respect

[Prinzess!]

no they are not the reason. i was younger and i did some stupid things. im not pregnant or a mother but i did do some stupid things! and my mom raised me right but i just did what i wanted to anyways! i snuck around behind her back and now i regret it so bad! she was right the whole time! so no i dont think that the parents play any part in it.

[**Charli**]

I think the parents should NEVER be left raising their grandchild.It pisses me off. My partner and I never ever go out together, since the kids were born. He will go out with his mates every now and then, and I have been twice. My friend although I love her dearly sometimes I just want to shake some sense into her, had her first child at 16, she is now 23 and is pregnant with her 5th.It shits me to tears, because she never has all the kids at once. Her and her partner don't live together and have a rocky relationship, but they try and save their relationship by having more kids.Her mother will often ring me up and be in tears. It isn't my place to say anything though. If you want the bloody kid, look after it!!PS. I am sorry, if this is really bitchy I am in a bad mood -Lack of sleep! :))

[Yazzy*Yaz]

The Grandparents have to be held responsible because how is a teen that cant even work or drive or even stay home alone take care of her baby teens. I think its sad for the kids born to the young teen mothers and sad for the grandparents because 1.grandparents shouldnt have to do this all over again, they did not lay down and get pregnant but on the same token i think if the parents raised these teens like you were raised then maybe pregnacy wouldnt of happened!what is to say about our future? if millions of teens or unwed young moms have kids you know the younger you start the more "babys daddys there wil be and i think ethics morals and values have been placed aside and its sad so sad.My friends mom had her when she was 14 and she now has 6 kids by 4 different dads and i know some more like this. Imno one to judge but its up to these parents/ role modelsto love and nurture there kids spend time with them and lead by a proactive lifestyle and this can be prevented!

[eye_candy380]

How dare you! I was a teen parent and I think that is unfair that you are even asking this! I don't think its fair that you are judging us. So what you waited until you were married! That was my plan and even when it was just the people around me having sex and I was still a virgin I still didn't judge them. You don't know what these people have gone through so don't be so quick to judge! SHIT HAPPENS! I still managed to finish school 3 months before graduation and continue my education. I plan on going back to become an RN. And no its not my mothers fault, we make our own decisions. And we have to own up to them. So get a life, worry about you and your husband because just like it happened to me it could have easily happened to you!

[bright eyes]

i disagree kids have a mind of there own and free will and no matter what you raise your kids to believe is right and wrong they still can choose to go against this and if it happens and the kids are prepared to keep it and the kids mum wants to look after it then thats up to surely thats just making the best of a bad situation

[RobinGD]

I both agree and disagree with eye candy. I agree that it is not always the parent's fault, sometimes kids do stupid things no matter how they were taught. I disagree that it could have just as easliy happened to you, or me for that matter. It couldn't have happened to you because you weren't having sex, and it wouldn't (and didn't) happen to me because I was taught how to prevent it, and never allowed sex to happen without prevention. I realize that there are "pill babies" out there, but a vast majority were caused by carelessness. I knew how pregnancy happened, and I did what was necessary to make sure I didn't get any surprises. When I was through having kids (had one that was planned), I took steps to permanently prevent it. Most of the time it's just a matter of being careful.

[newage38002000]

Parent can do their best, but it's up to the teen to take responsibility about their on acts. Granted, a parent taking over a teenager's kid is not teaching responsibility. It happened to me. I got pregnant at 20, and my parents made me take care of my own baby, to get a job, and to be responsible about her. That taught me that if I wanted to have fun, I'd be responsible for the aftermath.

[Wabby✿❀]

No way. I know from personal experience that even if my Mum is against something or doesn't want me to do it, it wont stop me. We have to take responsibility for our actions at some point.But in saying that, I know a girl whose parents couldn't care less about her. They do drugs and drinking every night. This girl is out sleeping with who ever is willing. If she'd had a good upbringing with morals, then she probably wouldn't be out sleeping around.My Mum doesn't mention sex. It's something that doesn't even get mentioned in this house. I have my own morals, nothing to do with either of my parents. I have no idea what my parents morals are. Of course a parent is going to feel responsible for it. It's only human nature. I don't agree with the grandmother raising the child. That's just wrong, it's your baby you take responsibility.

[abbileigh2010]

No parents are not responsible!