I had a miscarriage 3 years ago. I am now

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pregnant again. I am 10 weeks.? I am so worried that something is going to go wrong. My next doctor appointment is this Thursday. My appointments is every four weeks. I think I need to go to the doctor at least every two weeks Just to make sure that everything is ok. The last time I went to the doctor I had my first ultrasound. The doctor said that I wasn't as far along as she thought. I did get to see the babys hearbeat vibrating on the monitor. When will the doctor know an exact due date for me? She is pretty much guessing. My last period was on July 27th. She said that my due date is May 4th. but she seemed unsure. I really think I need to change doctors, but I don't know. Help!

[Melissa D]

I would change drs. You are high-risk now and need to see them more often or need to go to a high risk dr. Look around or ask around. Don't settle for less. Also, your EDD is based on the last day of your cycle. So, my last day was 1/10 and he's due on 10/17. You can go online to calculate this.

[katiebug]

It won't change anything even if you go to the doctor every day. Most pregnancies (90-95%) are completely healthy. I know it is nerve racking...I had a miscarriage with my first baby and it was hard just to relax and trust my body..but that is really what you need to do. Your body is equipped to take care of your little one, so let it...and trust it.

[clizzy]

are you considered a high risk pregnancy? I had miscarried around 10 weeks, and my next pregnancy was a high risk one. I went to a doctor who specialized in those. I know Drs can be intimidating, but I would voice your concerns to yours that you would like to be seen more often for a bit. Honestly, I held my breath until I was 25 or 26 weeks along, so I know how hard it is. Did they determine why you had miscarried before?

[Cowgirl]

You will know better the due date at around 12wks...it is hard depending on the location of the fetus to get a good reading sometimes. Give yer Dr. a couple more visits before you change. If your preg syntoms change (if yer sick now then stop being sick, or vise versa) then I would start to wonder if everythings ok...

[mcollum83]

If you are worried about due dates...stop worrying. You'll get another ultrasound and then they will be able to give a more precise date. But every baby is different. I get an ultrasound every two weeks, and every time, the estimated due date changes...kind of funny actually. As for the fact that you have miscarried before...there are a lot of things to think about. How far along were you at that miscarriage? Was there a known reason, or was it just spontaneous? I would make sure to talk with your doctor about your concerns, and if she does not listen, then switch doctors. I noticed my doctor this time around had to be reminded of everything, even of the notes right in front of his face...so I switched doctors right away. And good thing I did, because I had lost so much weight in the first 10 weeks, I needed medication NOW, and the other doctor was stalling. Doctors may have a degree, but they don't always know what they are doing. However, right now the last thing you need is stress, that won't help anybody out, especially not the baby. So I would take it easy, relax, and see another doctor if it bothers you that much. Hope everything goes well...good luck!

[foxy_bubbles_4]

It must be hard for you. I know how much I worried and I hadn't been through what you have. Especially as you know when your last period was, she should be more sure of your due date. In my experience, every baby is different, and grows differently. Your doctor should be relaying your fears, and seeing you when you want to be seen. If you aren't confident in her, change doctors I say.

[akhoney]

I would first like to tell you that 3 years is a long time for your body to recover from a m/c and to correct anything your body may have needed to correct. I think that if it were me I would be realistic...It is a horrible thing tha tI have gone through, many women have been there and had happy healthy babies, I will be fine, cautious but fine! There is really no other way to go about it. You cannot stress your body day after day with your concern...that isnt good for it!Now, about your doctor...If it were me...I would change. I dont think that you should be paying for medical care that you are not comfortable with. Shop around for a good doctor you have plenty of time to find one that you like. Take suggestions from people you will hear a particular name time and time again and then you will have an idea of where to start. Women are VERY loyal to their OB doctor in most cases. I have had OB doctors that have lasted longer than most of my boyfriends. lol You wil find the right doctor. You will get there I promise!Take care of yourself sweetie! I will keep you and your baby in my thoughts and prayers!

[xaviersmommy]

RELAX...worrying is worse for the baby then any thing else at this point in your pregnancy. Every four weeks is normal up until the 32 week if you got your first sonogram and everything looked good then you are fine. The baby's heartbeat is going don't worry.. he/she is just growing not much is going to change every two weeks... listen to your doctor.. you should only change doctors if you feel uncomfortable. As far as your due date they go by your last missed period they have this little dial that tells them 40 weeks from the first day of your last period thats how they get it. But when you have a sonogram they will measure the fetus and that will give you a better due date. Not everyone ovulates at the same time every month so you may be a couple of days ahead or a couple of days behind, I promise there is nothing to be streesed about. Take care of yourself, Rest, eat properly, drink pleanty of water, and take your vitamins, everything is going to be ok. Enjoy the life growing inside of you. God Bless

[Jill]

Having one miscarriage does NOT make you high risk, especially if it was an early miscarriage (prior to 12 weeks). There is no real medical indication that necessitates you being seen more often than the normal schedule of every 4 weeks at this point.Many women have early miscarriages and it's just a spontaneous, random thing that is independent from every other future pregnancy. Your due dates are another issue entirely. You could get another doctor if you don't feel this one is competent or answering your questions to your satisfaction. But sometimes there is question about the dates and it isn't due to the doctor's incompetence. Maybe you could give it a little more time and request another scan to see if the measurements of the baby are still not corresponding with your LMP date.I know you're nervous after the miscarriage - I had one too, and was a wreck for the next pregnancy, but you have to keep reminding yourself that there is no reason to suspect things will go wrong. Be patient. Have faith. Good luck!

[toya21]

hi well i had a miscarriage in may07 and when you go to tha dr you want sure answers cause when i had my miscarriage tha dr said i was 12weeks and when i had tha miscarriage tha dr told me i was 6weeks so i think you need to go to a specialist that deals with miscarriages cause that is too long to be goin to tha dr if you had a miscarriage before you need a dr tha will watch your pregnancy cause you dont want to go through what you already went through i know how that feels!!