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cristy
09-28-2007, 06:56 AM
control?? i been with my boyfriend for over a year and i just want to be portected and no slip ups.....and also for my periods cuz iget reaaly really bad cramps and dont come on time

goshrks07
09-30-2007, 10:03 AM
If you don't feel comfortable telling your mom you are ready to have sex, tell her that you are having really bad cramps (which it sounds like you do anyway). Birth control eases cramps, so it would be a good "alibi." Even if you don't tell your mom, DO tell your gynecologist. She will need to check you to make sure you are good to go.

Wabby✿
09-30-2007, 04:02 PM
Just tell your Mum that you're getting really bad cramps and you want to regulate your period and you would like to go on the pill. That's what I told my Mum, and it worked. Remember the pill isn't 100% so use a condom and the pill together.

Shannon B
09-30-2007, 04:12 PM
talk to your mom first of all without dad around moms understand these things better tell her the truth you're having really bad period pains your period is out of cycle and that you think you need birth control to regulate if nothing else if you are thinking of becoming sexually active you need to tell your mom this too so she knows not only are you thinking of trying to regulate your cycles but you are also wanting to protect your parents from grandparenthood and yourself from being a young mother dependant on her parents but also if you are thinking of being active for your own sake make sure you are protected completely so you don't catch something out there.Point out the pro's and con's to mom and she will eventually work dad into the idea.

criticalcatalyst
10-02-2007, 02:24 PM
It might be worth bringing up that you are or wish to be sexually active, and discuss it with your mother. And of course, bring up the other problems. If you're really afraid that she isn't going to take to the idea of you and your boyfriend having intercourse, then you can bring up the concerns about your period, and ask her if you can get on bc to control that. I'd personally advocate that you talk to your mother about being sexually active, but I think the more important part is getting on the pill, and having the confidence to get yourself there. And just talking about the medical side of things is probably the best way to do that.

LizzyBeeWsU
10-02-2007, 03:08 PM
Just tell your mom you want them because of your cramps and menstrual symptoms... if you tell her you are having sex then she will probably be mad at you and not let you get it. If she already knows you are having sex, then that's all the more reason for her to let you get it! I'm sure she doesn't want any little grandchildren running around yet lol. I'm a catholic and my extremely conservative mom never approved of it because she thought I was just going to do it to not get pregnant when I have sex but I had the worst cramps and heavy periods.. so I just went to a planned parenthood and paid for it out of my own pocket.. but if she helps you pay for it then you won't have to hide it from her and pay out the ass for it. Good luck!! :)

wolfmuslim
10-02-2007, 03:10 PM
Don't go on birth control. It can mess your body up really bad and cause you to be infertile later on in life. Don't have sex until marriage because even with the pill you can get pregnant. It's not 100% effective. I had a friend who was on the Depo shot and she can't have children now because the brith control hormones messed up her body so much thatit made her infertile. As to your period it's normal to feel sever pain. If you don't feel severe pain you aren't normal. Suck it up and take some Midol if you can't deal with the pain.

cathrl69
10-05-2007, 02:32 PM
Tell your mum about the period problems and get her to take you to the doctor.Birth control? Well, that's an obvious side-effect of being on the pill for other medical reasons :) But do bear in mind it's not 100%, if you're going to be sexually active you need to be aware that you could still get pregnant, and that the pill doesn't protect against STDs. You still need to be very careful.

HAy
10-06-2007, 05:20 AM
I think you should be open with your mom say some girl at my school just got pregnant I dont want this to happen to me would you care if i take birth control? Or you could do the easy thing and say something about your ghastly cramps.

Rick46
10-06-2007, 12:26 PM
Tell her they are for cramps and to regulate your periods. The birth control protection will be another benefit, but make sure your boyfriend is disease free because the pill will not protect against STD's, only pregnancy. My wife took the pill for regulating her periods before she had sex for the first time.

crisma32
10-06-2007, 03:11 PM
it depends on how old you are sweetie. The best thing is to just sit with her and talk about things that are going on as far as your cramps. Make sure you make the best decision for you. There's a lot out there.