anxiety??????

[dave nev]

i suffer pretty bad with anxiety and it wasn't long ago that i started to suffer with a bit of agrophobia,i wouldn't leave my house not even to see the doc,i've started beating it by going out more but the anxiety is still there and i'm convinced that something bad will happen when i'm out, the problem is my gf makes fun of my condition calls me a nutts job and tells me that if i take any pills my doc gives me she won't talk to me as she doesn't like people with problems,every day she flips off because i say i don't feel like taking her shopping but she won't go on her own,we have a shop 2 mins away which sells everything but she demands i take her across town even when i'm feeling ill,it's kinda making me feel worse to be honest because i feel stressed and anxious all the time from it,how do i get her to understand that i have an illness? i stood by her for 2 years when she had post natal depression and never once moaned but know i feel ill she says she can't be assed with me?

[rinoao]

Let her know how unappreciated you feel. Let her know about your feelings and if she laughs at you, don't stop.Stare at her awhile and grab her hand. Stare into her eyes and tell her straight in the yes.Exmple, you can start something like, '' I feel really bad that recently i wasn't able to do what you want me to do..blah..blah..due to my condition here. It doesnt feel good and i don;t like it. Because of this, a lot of times i feel depress and as though no one cares about me..You are the only person i care most in t his world ,and sometimes i just felt igmored or neglected by you..Please tell me if i am wrong..etc... ''Try it and practise on it. Maybe it works.All the best!

[sidnee_marie]

You can't make people understand your situation, but it sounds like you aren't in a healthy relationship if your girlfriend is making fun of your problem and then trying to make you feel guilty if you try to get help--like take meds. Sounds like SHE is the one with the problem. You don't need that kind of selfishness in your life. A person who truly loves you won't be that way--they will support you and help you get better. You need someone to reciprocate the kind of attention and understanding you gave her--but she isn' t going to do that sweetie. You need to take care of you first--and if she can't understand that, then you shouldn't be with her. Sorry to be so blunt, but people like that really PISS me off. EVERYONE has problems in life---it is really irritating when someone goes through something, gets help from others, then when those people need help in return, they can't be bothered. See, I've been in your situation---so I know what happens. Good luck to you!!

[nvoeau]

I used to feel that way myself and sometimes i still do just not as much , I was diagnosed with social anxiety the thought of being in crowded places was a nightmare for me . I would suggest sitting her down and telling her exactly how you feel inside . Teasing you about this won't help the situation she need to be understanding and help you with this. Please go to your doctor and get on meds if you feel you need them they do help and who knows she may find a whole different person in you after taking them for a bit . Remember someone who truely loves and cares for your well being will understand and stand by you .

[longhairbroad]

Tell her that the brain is just another body part and if she doesn't respect what treatment your doctor prescribes to treat the malfuction your brain is suffering from then she can go find somebody else. There is a whole world filled with diabetics she can ridicule for insulin, thyroid patients she can deride for their synthetic thyroid hormones and heart patients for their heart meds she can practice her ignorance on. I'm suspecting keeping the Princess happy may be contributing to your anxiety attacks!

[stone_angel11]

you need to sit her down and explain how she is making you feel hunny. its the least she could do after you standing by her. my partner and i are still going through the post natal depression,and the aftershocks it causes. it sounds like she is still suffering with it hunny,and she is not supporting you enough. i am so sorry that your going through such a rough time. their is something herbal you can take and its called 5-HTP.its in 1000mg dose,and you take 1 half an hour before bedtime. it will help you get a restful healthy sleep and it will calm the anxiety down. i suffer with panic attacks and depression and this herbal remedy has helped me so much. you can take it during the day once your body has got used to it,as it makes you drowsy at first. i have been on this for a month now and i have seen real improvement and the anxiety is a lot less than what it was. i would suggest you try and get some kind of councelling if you dont want to take the 5-htp,but i do know they work sweety. i am allergic to all anti depressants so trying the 5-htp was the last resort,and thankfully it works. really hope things improve for you soon hunny. your partner needs to be a hell of a lot more understanding,it is selfish of her to make you do things that make your problem worse. its insensative and cruel. you need to tell her how you feel hunny,so you can try and work things out together. you have both been through so much and need to stick together and help and support one another. she should not be calling you names its wrong. take care sweety. best of luck with everything xx

[whitequeensb]

One of the first things that you have to realize is that you do need to get the help and support that you need. The anxiety, stress, and agrophobia is not going to majically go away on it's own. It is critical that you follow up with your doctor and explain to him/her what you are experiencing to recieve the proper medication. I also recommend that you seek a professional psychiatrist that deals with clients who suffer from depression, anxiety, and other varies forms of trauma. Your goal should be to recieve the medication for the anxiety, and to sit with a professional to take the proper steps to come up with ways to allow you to overcome the anxiety. Your health is very important. Your health should be a priority over your relationship. Once you start taking the medication constantly, followed by the treatments, you will see improvements in your social life and will enjoy outdoor activities. If improving health and well being represents a conflict in your relationship, then it is best for you to persue your health and happiness alone at this time. But you have to make that decision and use good judgement. Remember if ignore your anxiety, it will not get better, iit can actually get worse.

[Ramona]

Dave,Every question you have about this woman gives me concern. She is a mean, selfish and ultimately abusive woman.I question why you continue in this relationship. It seems toxic to say the least.Please seek out professional counselling or the support of a strong friend or family member. You need to examine what is going on here with a clear mind.Sorry to be so blunt. I wish you well.

[lilrnkinn942]

does she have an e-mail? e-mail her info on it..i did with my hubby when he didnt understand my anxiety..and then invite her to read about it online and other peoples ways of dealing with anxiety ...i would just put anxiety symtoms in my search engine and read alot about it..then id invite hime to come and read the stuff with me,and not to mention reading alot about it helped me out alot too!!! and also she might see that you have a problem that alot of people have also shell see your serious about wanting to control it...good luck