Depression..?

[Garrettsmom]

My husband accuses me of cheating, lying, etc. all the time and I'm so sick of it. I've been cheated on in the past and so has he. So we are both pretty jealous. We have a 6 mth old son, that he rarely helps me with. Since the day he was born. I've feed, waken up with, changed, bathed, and watched him. (with his occasional help..but he almost acts like its a choir) My husband will say "im going to run to the store, or go pick up this or that"..and leave me with the baby. I love my son more than life itself but at times I want to get out too. When I tell him this he see's nothing wrong with his behavior..how can you change s/thing when the person see's nothing wrong? I feel that he has made me have severe low self esteem and confidence in myself..I feel horribly depressed and sad alot of the time b/c I'm alone so much. I work in an office alone, I come home before him..he works until 8pm. When he gets home he's tired..showers..eats..goes to bed...Is this what a marriage is?

[harry_potter_lives!]

well, i dont think it is what a marriage. i suggest you 2 see a marrige counselor, and if your depression doesnt go away then maybe see a depression counselor, i had to go to one when i was little (i was a pretty messed up kid) but they really do work :)

[angelfish]

This isn't a great situation but I can't tell you how many of my girlfriends and myself have lived through that. I was married for 6 yrs after knowing my soon to be ex for 1 year. He was verbally and emotionally abusive nearly the entire time. I thought that it wasn't that bad because he never actually hit me despite threatening to or other intimidating tactics. He criticized almost everything that I liked and enjoyed. I had barely any friends and never felt comfortable having people over. When we had our kids I thought for sure he would see all the stuff that needed to be done but he never did. Even when I blew up and told him what I needed for him to do, it would only last a day or two and things would be back to the way they were. Somehow I ended up feeling guilty for putting pressure on him to do his share. His behavior became more and more erratic and out of control and that is when I became a single mom to 3 young kids. The further away I got from him the more clear his controlling and manipulative behavior became. I was able to see through all his tactics and no longer let him do that to me. I ended up having to stop any and all communication with him. And I realized just how much I hated myself and believed all the horrible things he'd say to me. I'm not saying that this is what needs to happen with you but the truth of the matter is, your partner/best friend/lover should lift you up and honor who you are. That means respecting all your efforts, your opions, and realize you are YOU and not just half of him.

[Weeping Tinkerbell]

Your hsuband obviously doesn't deserve you. Try talking to him. Tell him how you feel and see how he reacts. If he really cares for you and your son he will make an effort to make you happy and to give your son a good life. Don't put up with such abuse. You don't deserve it. Learn to be independant. Why don't you leave your son in a day care or something? Maybe you and your husband could both see a family counsellor? What is hapening to you is definately not marriage is all about.