my boyfriend suffers from mild depression?

[Elana]

and it effects me. ive been with him for a little over 5 months. and you would think i would have learned by now how to deal with it. i mean i know how to deal with it. its just that when he gets upset it makes me upset and aggravated. so i cry,and we argue and thats not going to help him. he told me to just be upbeat or not talk to him until he is calmed down. i hate that he goes through this. and i think he has been on anti depressants before. but i dont think he wants to take them now. its just sometimes if im all upbeat and think he is happy as well, and i say something that offends him it makes me all sad and down. and then we just end up argueing. but sometimes he gets depressed when he hasnt seen me for a while. but right now i dont think thats his case. if he hangs out with his buddies or me he gets fine. i just dont understand how to deal with it when it comes and i cant be there.

[YEYA23]

You need to leave him, I know you probably love him a lot, I had to leave my boyfriend of 5 years because he would not accept his problem and get help, our relationship became abusive and it absorbed all of my energy trying to understand him and help him with his problem, he needs to get mental help or you need to leave him you deserve someone with less baggage! ~Good Luck

[**Amanda**]

Hun, I use to have mild depression, but i grew out of it i guess. anyway he should prob take anti-depressants. the only advice i can give you is to just roll with the flow of things. Sorry things are so hard for you. email if you ever wanna talk.

[Dee W]

Welll mine suffers form depression and pms. We have been together 5 years. In the beginning i let it get to me. I tried to help out and if he got angry I cried and if he tried to have some space I blocked the door.. etc.. In all honesty looking back and knowing what I know now... I would have done just what he told me.. Step aside. Leave him alone cuz he'll get over it quicker. Honestly just till him when he's done feeling like the world hates him come see you in the livingroom. He'll maybe go sit in his car for a few min. As soon as he see's you'll give him his space he'll want to vent to you about it.. just don't give him your opinion when he tells u...that wil f up everything just nod an say wow what an asshole etc...

[Kuzan]

Encourage you to pick up the Book"The Mindful Way through Depression"for him. It is by Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD.This excellent book teaches all the skills and techniques needed to alleviate depression and anxiety as well.Hope this helps, some..

[wackowoman]

St. John's Wort.

[Year of Dragon]

Your boyfriend smokes pot, good luck.

[tweets]

Have him read Blow Away The Back Clouds By Florence Littauer, and take st. Johns Wort.