I'm 18, 4 months pregnant. I had a abortion 8...

[Chocolate D]

...months ago. I'm really confused any suggestions? I recently went to the abortion clinic and couldn't go through with the procedure. But now im really scared, unemployed and confused. Did I make the right choice.

[magy]

Only you know that, but I'll bet yes, you did. I was faced with this choice at your age (my first, unplanned pregnancy), and I decided i needed to abort or keep the baby- couldn't stand the adoption route (personally). I had and kept the baby- best damn decision i ever made.

[♥Sunset]

well lets see...first time u got prgnant and had an abortion u were selfish and ur being selfish again? And why didn't u stop having sex if last time u got pregnant? Do u ever learn? Guess not...u only think abortion solves the problem...I KNOW stop having sex will help UR problem

[miss_may1414]

I you went to the clinic and couldn't go through with it, yes you made the right choice. You did what you felt right about and followed your heart. In these matters it is always the right choice. Do you have any family that can help you out? Good luck and keep your chin up !

[debbie939828]

Always the right choice to keep your baby. If you can't look after it yourself there are plenty of families waiting to give your baby a wonderful life. Get some counselling to talk through your options. Good luck with the future choices you have to make. xx

[zebrafinchlover]

well 4 months is way too late to be having abortions. way way too late. and if you do do it, make sure you get a look at what they take out of you, a almost fully developed tiny little baby. give it up for adoption and then figure out some sort of birth control that you are able to follow through will, or just quit having sex, it's really not fair to the child that you create just to kill it.

[Chacacon]

I agree you made the right choice and you probably couldn't go through with it because of guilt from the first one. A child is a wonderful blessing but maybe you arent ready so this is always adoption.

[Aero-Smith]

You need to get on birth control after the birth or your baby.You may want to go to the clinic and discuss your options. Adoption is a wonderful way to go- many families will even pay your expenses as part of the process. You can even pick who adopts your baby. Adoption isnt like the old days when they would rip your baby from your arms and give it to the first available family.You can make ALL the decisions on everything.If this option isnt for you----you should go to your local family counseling center and talk to someone about programs that will help you take care of your childs needs.Get on the pill and use protection.Good luck

[micksphoto]

I really hope this is a sick joke.

[kewpiedoll0409]

You can do it and will be fine. Go to your goverment agency and get help. Pleanty of women have done it with much less. Try to find a job, even if it is part time. Anything. You don't have to tell any employer that you are pregnant. You are just going to have to try really really hard. If you truely do not want this child then adoption is always a choice. As far as if you made the right choice, I can't tell you that. You need to think about your decision and decide if it was teh right choice for you! Good Luck! Hope everything works out for you.

[Richelle78]

First of all, don't take this the wrong way, but you need to be more careful. If you had an abortion 8 months ago, you should have thought more about what you were doing this time around. That said, it can't be changed. I would look into other options, such as adoption or raising the child yourself. Also, get some counseling. That way, you can talk out your feelings with an impartial party. If you talk to family and friends, they may try to push you into a certain decision. Research adoption and the different options avaliable to you that way. Search for an agency that isn't going to pressure you into the decision to give your baby up, because you need to decide on your own. While I am for adoption, I can't make that decision for you. After you have looked at the other choices, if you still think abortion is the way to go, then at least you will be making an informed choice. However, don't wait too long to make a choice. Best of luck to you.

[Katie P]

When girls of any age abort, you domestically killed a human being. Many women have mental problems or trauma after an abortion. I would prefer an adoption, but it's the hardest thing a woman has ever got to do. I mean, she's carried this baby in her stomach for several months, gone through labor, and hold that precious baby in her arms for the first time, then hand it over to someone else for a mother? I think you need to start over. Make a sure plan of what to do with this baby. Think: If you keep this baby, are you sure you can handle a job?, etc. Good luck! Remember: Listen to your heart. YOU are the only one who can direct this baby's life in the right direction.

[Mkerrigan.uk.]

Well if abortion would be too traumatizing for you then yes you made the right choice. But if you're unemployed, you should really really find a job that can help sustain you and your baby.

[bkcwzy]

My friend had a really great experience with this company.

[mom2be#3]

yes,any choice that involves the life of a baby is a good one.put the baby up for adoption.there is million couples out there that want babies but can't because of a problem with fertiltyplease put it up for adoption if you don't think your ready for the responsibilty.

[KelleeCee]

If your heart is telling you not to have an abortion, listen to it. You now have two options..adoption or toughing it out and keeping the baby. Both choices will be hard, but you must think of your own circumstances and if you can responsibly support your baby--financially and emotionally. There are many non profit groups that will help you--look in your yellow pages for local numbers. many of them offer free counseling and some will even help with job training and childcare. The government also has assistance for young moms.You will realize you have plenty more options than you realize. And if you plan to raise your child, get child support from the father. Also, don't let anyone make you feel bad about your past abortion--no one has the right to judge you. Good luck!

[Becky]

I also answered your less detailed question. You made the right choice this time around. I was 18 and a senior in high school when I got pregnant with my daughter. She is now 12 years old. I am so glad I decided to keep her. I know it's scary, but you'll be alright. Luckily there are plenty of jobs around and there's lots of help out there for you too. Work hard and love your baby...you'll be fine. If you're not sure you can raise the baby on your own, there are tons of people who would adopt your baby. You should be proud for choosing life for your child. It takes courage.

[beautifulirishgirl]

Oh my god. It is your choice, of course. i couldn't care less, as long as you do NOT go on WIC, welfare, or medicaid. Get a job, get some insurance, and pay for your own child. I do not want to pay for your baby. Next time, use birth control pills and condoms and maybe some spermacidal gel too. Yes adoption sounds like an excellent option. Then people who can afford the child will pay for it. Be careful though.....my fiance (deceased) was adopted by a millionaire.....and he was abused so badly it was sad. Locked in the basement, starved, sent away to boot camp, beaten, you name it. Be sure to pick loving, responsible adoptive parents.

[Dowhatuwant]

I think you made a really good choice !!!!!!!! If you still don't want to raise the child go to your local adoption agency and talk with them about what you what to do there are alot of different choices.Also if you do want to keep it then go apply for some help babies can get medicaid and the mother can get help with her bills.They offer childcare at your local Department of Social services.Also you can get W.I.C which will pay for baby's milk if you don't want to breast feed. Who knows your family might be happy to help if you let them.Do you know the child inside you would have felt everything they did to it.if you had of went through with it.You may not know but they stable the new born baby's with scissors in the chest right be for throwing it into the trash.You saved this baby from that kind of pain. I know you are confused ,but seek God and pray He Can and Will Help You!!!St. Matthew 25:33 I will be praying for you!!!!Most women find there selves wondering when there pregnant ,but once you see this child you help create and hold him/her for the first time there is no better feeling .You will know why you made the choice you did at that time if no other.

[amiguita_malu]

Two Words:BIRTH CONTROL!!!!!!!!!!!!

[logansmommy15]

there's always adoption. Try your local pregnancy crisis center, they should be able to refer you to a lot of different places.