Eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth?

[emmi]

When I returned back to work after a hospital operation, my work collegue (who is also a "friend" who I sometimes go for drinks with) didn't even ask me how I was. I was away for a week and still to this day she hasn't even ask me anything about it, even though we sit nex to each other at work. I was quite upset.Now some time later: she too has returned from a stay in hospital after an operation, but I still cant forget the time she completley ingnored me- and showed a lack of interest into my wellbeing.I am feeling like doing the same (ignoring the fact she's been away) just to give her a tase of her own medicine. should I?

[amoore_84]

An eye for an eye will make us all blind - Ghandi.

[kent_shakespear]

she'sclearly not your friend.you can give hher a dose of her own, or you can be a bigger person than that and reach out anyway - and if you do, you can still twist a knife: "Just thought I'd ask. I know from when I got back from my surgery, it'd have bene niceto know someone cared enough to ask."

[AnswersGalore]

No, I think you are a better person than that and I think you know it. The fact that you are even asking this question is proof.Do ask your friend about her operation. I am sure she will realise her own failings and become a better person for it.

[Maziana]

The Golden Rule. Besides, it will make you feel better yourself, knowing what you have done is right. I do understand how you feel... but sometimes people are just that way. Sometimes they don't even think to do something that you would want them to do. It is still the right thing to give them the respect you would like.

[2 good 2 miss]

You sound childish to me...... i know you will give me thumbs down but who gives a shite.To even want someone to ask how you are is attention seeking for starters and not to ask how someone is just because they never asked you is childish.The next point is this..... Ive been on holiday myself and come back to work to find some people ask how it went and some dont ask.... Ive done the same as YOUR life is not at the top of everyone elses agenda.... they have their own life and for all you know she has had more to worry about or was off sick herself last week and forgot you were off as well.

[Team]

Nope that's not Christ-like. eye for an eye was old testament. New Testament retracted that with have to treat others as we want to be treated and love they neighbor as thyself

[brit_plod]

No... Rise above it, don't lower your own standards... Make an effort to be nice and pleasant to her, you'll feel better and it'll probably annoy her even more!Smile... you have friends!

[captbullshot]

No - ask her about her op, then you can draw parallels with your own experiences in hospital. It's petty to think about "getting your own back" in situations like this.Two wrongs don't make a right, my friend!

[Kingdomchild07]

You cannot do it. It is not your character even you force yourself to do it. You will regret it and feel guilty, maybe not now but in the later part. Every one is different. If not you will not post this question. Response to your inner self not on religion or quotes from people or even advice from here then you will know who you really are. This is your opportunity to know your true self. We discover truth during our weak or crisis time or just this emotional feeling moment. Then when you find your weakness or strength, you will understand the real you better.

[FatKid]

No, Karma is a b*tch.

[the sarah]

well a lot of times i do the same thing. my friend will go on a vacation and i will not even think about asking her how it went. NOT that i dont care about her as much as i should- only- it doesnt even cross my mind to ask her. its a big fault i have and i have to repeatedly catch myself and ask her- "how did your sister's wedding go? im so excited for you!" so that she knows i care...so maybe it just didnt cross her mind to ask you. give her the benefit of the doubt!! =] good luck!

[Avie]

Perhaps the reason your co-worker didn't mention anything about your hospital stay is because she didn't want to feel she was prying. There are some people who prefer to keep work relationships strictly professional, even if they do go out and share a couple of drinks from time to time. It is possible she felt she was doing you a courtesy by not mentioning anything about your health.I admit, I would be hurt if someone did the same to me. But the working world is not quite the same as the real world: there's usually a whole separate set of rules once you clock in. Some people have even been known to get in trouble for certain forms of "fraternizing." Even if the job the two of you have right now is okay with that sort of thing, she may have previously been in one where it was not. You know what they say about old habits dying hard. In other work environments, it's strictly taboo to mention medical information, even if it's just, "Hey, I missed you. Heard you were in the hospital--what happened?"It's also possible that your co-worker herself prefers medical privacy for one reason or another. If I were in the same situation as you, I wouldn't mention anything to her, not out of spite, but out of return courtesy for her feelings.