My stepmother is dying from lung cancer....

[dickenerfelheimer]

...What can I do to help and comfort my father?

[kels kels]

srry that she is dying but about the only thing u can do is be their for him. if he needs to talk listen but he just needs company do that to.

[amydarling94]

Make sure you visit him often and talk about things that he likes (for ex. sports, books, tv shows, movies, etc.)

[Freshteh]

Just try to be there when he needs you. If he needs someone to talk to then listen and if he needs a shoulder to lean/cry on tell him you have two shoulders and he may use both of them if it makes him feel better. I'm very sorry to hear about your step mom.

[BlueLadyBlue R]

Let him do the talking or if he doesnt talk just be near him and that is all you can do. Maybe make some food to give him to eat. And let him talk or cry or whatever its the hardest thing for him and for you.

[~Baby Girl~]

idk???? im SOOOOOOO srry!!! #1 u really need to pray 2 god alot, u cant handle every thing yr self. have u ever read the book red dirt jesse??? if u havent ,read it!! it relates yo yr problems!! i`ll pray 4 u!!!

[patty y]

Stay by your father and do what ever he tells you. Keep reassuring him that it will be okay. Is she going through chemo? Help her through it too. Make her happy and give her hope and strength to keep going. I once knew this woman who breast cancer, but it had spread throughout most of her body and into most of her major organs. All the doctors were doubtful. But she kept her motivation up by never looking at herself in the mirror while she was going through chemotherapy. She didn't want to see how thin and pale she looked after everything. She wanted to see her usual beautiful self. Every morning she would put on her make up and wig on in the dark and then put the lights on in the bathroom to take a look at herself. She kept this up for years. Her perseverence led to a miracle. She survived. I'm so sorry. I hope my answer helped.

[Breezy365]

My dad died exactly 2 years ago from lung cancer. I think the best thing you can do is just to be there for him, if you live close by, see if there are any errands you can do for him. If its really close to the end, he may not be able to think clearly though. You might have to just assert yourself and get groceries and clean or whatever you can see that needs to be done. Go with him to make arrangements for the funeral if they haven't yet. I'm sure anything you can do would be appreciated. Write her obituary if it hasn't been done yet, or make a list of people to contact when she does pass. Those are all the things that I can think of that we did for my mom or that our friends did for us.

[Lesleann]

Wow...I'm very sorry to hear about that. My stepmom died in Dec 2005, also of cancer. They had been married 30 years. That's really a tough one because each person has their own way of dealing with it. What comforted MY dad may seem pointless to YOUR dad. What I did was come around everyday for a few hours and cook ans take care of the house so that he could spend all his time with mom. I took care of all the daily mundane things like paying the bills, stocking the refridgerator, etc.. It wasn't that I didn't want to also spend time with mom, we had our precious few moments when Dad was out running errands. Today I'm grateful that I was able to be there for my mom and for him and I think that's what really counts.

[Mel R]

Be there for him when he needs a break or a shoulder to cry on. Loosing someone to cancer is a very difficult thing to go through. Believe me I know!!