I want to know how to make peace with my...

[PersonalImprov]

...ex-wife. She asked for divorce, I gave her one.? I found someone who appreciated me. I married her. Now, I have moved out of state. My ex now hates me more because I can't help with raising kids. I pay my child support and alimony on time and I'm current. I meet up to my obligations in the divorce decree. I moved on because I found someone who loved me and that I could love. But this new crisis (ex-wife being angry) is creating problems in my new marriage. I feel I can't win. Any advice?

[partly smart]

ask to take the kids. dont feel bad. my ex is thinking about moving 1000 miles away from me with my son. id rather them stay but shes gotta do what shes gotta do.

[rrss3405]

Your obligations are your kids. Don't you spend time with them? Or are they just an obligation to you? I would understand her being mad. Come on. That means that she has to be the parent 100%. In your new marriage, your wife has to understand that apart of the package was your kids and unfortuantly the ex wife as well. If she doesn't understand that then she needs to grow up.

[survivor]

same thing happened to me. my second marriage failed because my second wife had a hard time with dealing with the drama. This will be a test on how much your current wife really does love you because you have kids and you're ex will try to break it up. Mine did but i figured my new wife did not love me for who i was. I had a bitch of a first wife and i couldn't help that. My second wife knew what she was getting into but couldn't handle it. hopefully yours will. it will be a test that's for sure and it won't end because you have children.

[Colt 45]

Change your number, drop all contact with her unless it has to do with the children. Maintain your divorce decree mandates, tell her thats all you are going to do and drop it. Fufill the custody agreements. Thats all you can do, tell her if it weren't for the kids she'd be cut off from your life completely, then tell her sit down, shut up, and move on!

[Chris Cross Christ]

You can't win. She has turned into a bitter woman and will be that way as long as she chooses. You just have to deal with it. Don't let it affect your new relationship though. That's exactly what she wants.

[babycake]

Sorry to tell you, but being a dad is more than just paying child support. Call her and ask her what you can do to help her out, after all these are YOUR kids too. There is no way on this earth that I would move out of the state that my kids live in.

[damn you suck]

don't worry about what she thinks.take care of your kids and be a good father and make sure you get plenty of reciepts from the child support and any other thing you need to pay.Is your ex stirring the pot with your new wife? If so then put a restraining order on her.babycake how can you honestly say you would not move out of the state your kids are in until that situation arises? It's very possible that the move could be a job transfer that she was against and he had no choice in.I'm not saying that this is the case but stuff happens and causes people to move.I'm sure hes a good dad.

[Chekota G]

Why are you even in touch with your ex wife?You can be in touch with your children without having to talk to her.She is probably jealous because you have moved on with your life and found someone else.And she is stuck being a single parent.Trust me, it is very hard to be a single parent.She doesn't have any free time because she has responsibilities, that should be partly yours.Paying your child support and alimony are great, don't get me wrong.But what else are you doing to be a part of your children's lives?She is the one having to deal with them being upset because you left.She probably hates seeing her children upset.You, on the other hand, don't have to see it or deal with it.So I can definitely see where her anger is coming from. No, she should not be taking it out on you, but better you than the kids.You need to help more with YOUR children.And your new wife needs to accept that.Believe me, those poor children are the ones dealing with all the pain :(

[Vegas]

I think she feels like you aren't helping raise the kids, you had them too, but you just up and moved out of state, she may feel like she has no life and is upset that you could just move on and live life without seeing your kids on a regular basis. Really you are only obligated to your kids, there is no reason you have to make sure your ex still likes you. Do you want your current wife to ask for a divorce too, if not, then take care of her and take care of your kids

[marilynfsmgm]

see if you can have the kids when they are not in school.im sure she doesnt have any free time and in her way she is telling you that.you helped in making those children and you should help raise them.they also need to know that you didnt put a women first instead of them.you will help her and keep your kids happy.