How do you help someone with a drug problem who

[llewellynlewis]

wants help but also will also run back to te drugs asap? Asked by my mom who wants to help a friend of my brother. The boy has admittedto his problem, admitted that he needs help, but is also a well known serial liar. I feel he is just making everybody happy for now admitting all these things but will run to the closest exit as soon as he finds it. In other words he is jus buying time.

[diamondeyes]

put him in a rehab

[Sabine É]

Trying to get someone to stop using drugs is like trying to force someone to climb up a ladder. Unless the person makes a lifelong commitment to remain sober, no one else can do it for them. Ultimatums, such as get help or we disown you are the only way to protect yourself

[sadirony]

Yeah, A LOT of people fake it until they get their friends and parents off their backs. You cannot make him want to recover; he has to want it for himself. Putting him in rehab will most likely just waste a lot of money.

[kim1032002]

Don't enable him, by continuing to accept his lies and allowing him to be able to enjoy all of the benefits. Get together an intervention and explain to him all of the consiquences of his actions. I am assuming his parents also know this about him? If not then your mom should contact them and let them know so you can all do the intervention together. He needs to confined to a rehab for any help to take effect exspecially if he is prone to "run to the closest exit". Alot of times an addict will admit they have a problem for you to get off their back and then they will not take any efforts to rectify the problem because they are evidently incappable of such. You should clearly layout specific consiquenses that you are willing to do to cut him out of your life unless he gets help. And when he agrees that treatment is best, then do not pass go and take him directly there before any second guesses can be made. Good luck!

[good_morning_sunshine]

Whether or not he's lying about needing help, deep down he knows he does. Depending on what drugs he's using, he's probably scared as hell of the withdrawel, because it's a horrible experience coming off of drugs. He needs support and people to believe he can actually overcome this. Most likely, he will relapse a few times if he does go to rehab or NA. If he's using heroine or something similar, he can do methadone treatment and it will lessen the withdrawl symtoms. Withdrawel is the main reason most drug users don't get help. No matter how many times he fails or relapses, keep supporting him.

[All Smiles]

Tie him to bed and lock him in there for 3 days(If he agrees). I'm not kidding if he is addicted his body needs it. If he is on heavier drugs like heroin etc than the only way is rehab or like I said tie him up. If he begs you do not listen. It sounds cruel, but he probably cannot do it on his own.

[james p]

Unfortunately Sir, you cannot force help on anyone, and this is a classic case.People who have "negative" character traits are the ones most prone to be drug abusers. also more often than not, people with bipolar tendencies are very likely to abuse drugs and or alcohol. Once again you cannot help them, unless they truly want help. The best thing you can do for this person is turn your back on him until he learns his lesson, which may be never. A pathological liar can and will be even more convincing when they are on street drugs, such as ice, crack, or methamphetamines, (we can thank Timothy O'Leary for that one), and they will kill, rob, or steal from their own grandmother to satisfy their habit. If you value your life, never trust someone on drugs. What people fail to understand these days is that the street drugs available today make living zombies out of normal people. Did you know that there are actually ignorant people that smoke marijuana dipped in formaldehyde. In the South it is referred to as waterwater, and the reprobates that use it look like walking dead people, needless to say, most people that use it don't last very long. Education is the only way to prevent people from abusing drugs, and that doesn't always work either, but I am aware of one thing, if Americans don't start doing something to eliminate all the street drugs in our country our children will suffer far worse than our generation has. Pray that he will learn his lesson, pray with a sincere heart and purpose, then hide and watch, but don't interfere.God will deal with him in his time.

[Marcia K]

To be honest, you don't.